This weekend has definitely been different than any other weekend I could have ever experienced. The only way I could sum up tit up is that I stepped way out of my comfort zone–I mean like I jumped a kilometer out of my comfort zone. Today I am going to tell you 3 stories or times when I stepped out of my comfort zone and how they changed me, so here they are.
About a month ago this stepping out of my comfort zone began when I went to a zip line obstacle course. One thing you need to know about me is that I am not an outdoorsy gal, and climbing trees is not my strong suit. But here I was with my friends, about 2 hours away from home, in a tree (don’t worry its very safe and you’re attached properly to a harness) and I was shitting myself, for a lack of better words. I had to do the obstacle course, and really there was a point I was going to give up. But my friends encouraged me and kept me going. I finished the obstacle course and felt relieved. It was only on the drive back that I realized just how out of my comfort zone I was. But thanks to my friends and myself, I kept pushing through the anxiety and the stress and just kept going. I would have regretted if I had stopped, and one of my friends at the end even said she was glad I didn’t stop because I wouldn’t have had as much fun and she knew I could do it. A part of me knew I could do it too, but this was very out of my comfort zone. But I did it, I stepped out of my comfort zone and was rewarded with the feeling that I accomplished something I would not normally do and that is a big deal for me.
The second time I stepped out of my comfort zone was this past Friday. My member of parliament for my district (the person who represents us in the Canadian parliament) was hosting a 5 a 7 to get to know the younger crowds in her constituency and to talk about the youth council she wanted to form. Now how is this stepping out of my comfort zone? Well, I went alone to an event where I knew absolutely no one. I literally knew not a single person and had no idea what to expect. Even more shockingly, before and during the event I did not feel anxious at all. This is very new feeling for me because even in basic social situations I tend to get anxious, but with this event, I didn’t. I got there and talked to a few people and was being my true and genuine self. I felt light and alive and just me. It truly felt amazing. I stepped out of my comfort zone and realized that stepping out of my comfort zone doesn’t mean I am abandoning who I am by any means. It just means I am taking myself, the person I am most comfortable with, and dropping in on a situation I’m not used to.
When you are truly comfortable with who you are and just yourself in general, being put into situations you are not used to, becomes a whole lot easier because you have yourself to rely on. I wasn’t anxious because I trusted who I was, and I let myself be me. When we try to construct who we are, we start to care about what other people think and how we will be, how we should act or what we should say, and that’s what causes us to be anxious. Obviously, there are many other reasons, but for me, that’s what starts my anxiety.
Lastly, yesterday I went to a girl’s empowerment summit (I wrote a mini blog post about it yesterday) and I went alone. I mean I was planning to spend 10am-4pm all alone. I truly don’t mind being alone, I like spending time with myself. But what worried me was how were people going to see me? Was anyone going to think I was a loner? But that was not the case at all.
I met so many amazing girls who were so genuine and had beautiful souls. I again was just being me the entire time and everything fell into place. I was not planning to go, but there was a small part of me that was like you need to go! I acted on that part the night before and next thing you know they were scanning my ticket at the entrance and handing me a goody bag. I stepped out of my comfort zone and ended up being motivated, inspired and in awe of all the absolutely incredible women that spoke at the summit and the girls I met in the audience.
You see stepping out of your comfort zone is not so bad when you trust yourself. When you start to understand that who you are is beautiful, brave, courageous, amazing, inspiring and so many other amazing qualities.Then you too, will be able to leap out of your comfort zone. You need to have your back and have faith in yourself in order to step of out your comfort zone.
This did not happen overnight, and quite frankly I have something today that requires me to step out of my comfort zone and I am not entirely okay with it. But I trust myself and will genuinely be myself and that is what counts.
Be yourself and accept yourself. You will be amazed at just how capable you are of doing things you would not normally do.
Thanks for reading and have a wonderful Sunday!