The Habit Tracker

As of today, I have been using a habit tracker for one month. Now I didn’t come up with this idea, and I am not entirely sure who the original person is but I did come across it on YouTube while watching Kalyn Nicholson’s video, and in her bullet journal she created a habit tracker. Now I’m not into the whole bullet journal, mostly because I need structure and having a blank canvas scares me, but my lack of artistic skills doesn’t help either.

A habit tracker is essentially a visual space where you can track your progress with certain habits that you wanted to work on. For example, I wanted to work on journaling more and writing down 3 things that I’m grateful for. At the end of the day or the next day, I would fill in the box if I completed the habit for that day.

It’s super easy to set up. All you need is some colorful pens, ruler, paper or notebook and a list of habits you want to start or old ones you want to keep track of!

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I find that this visual chart keeps me much more accountable than if I just wrote it down as a habit that I wanted to pick up.

As you can see, I don’t always achieve the habit that day. In the beginning, I used to see not filling in a habit as bad and bring myself down about the fact that I hadn’t done that habit. The thing you need to remember is that these are habits you want to pick up, but if you don’t do them that day, then that’s okay also.

The habit tracker is mainly a way to help you start new habits and keep yourself accountable, not chain you to them and make you feel bad if you don’t complete them. That being said, do try to achieve as many as you can.  At the end of the day, this habit tracker is to help you.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Become The Fire

“Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it”– r.h. sin

When you think of it, fire doesn’t let anything stop it in its path (except for certain materials, buts lets avoid the technicalities and focus on the bigger picture). Fire will go where it wants to go, not asking for permission and technically not stopping until the oxygen is stopped being supplied to it. That’s how you should be. You should not let anything stop you, you should do what you want to do and never ask for permission and not stop until the end!

The fire shouldn’t be something we fear, yet here we are scared to ignite it. Why? Because for centuries women have been told to suppress the fiery burn within us, the spark just dying to be ignited. There was no place for a woman in the world other than in the house. But guess what? Times are a changing’ and things are not at all what they used to be.

You have the right and the duty to ignite that spark within you, whatever it may be. You have the privilege that many women before us did not have. You have the privilege to become the fire. Don’t fear the fire, never fear the thing that will make you the best version of yourself.

Fire is what led to our survival all those years ago. Even today, more metaphorically speaking, the fire inside of you is what will keep you afloat, happy, surviving, but also thriving.

Become the fire.

You are the fire.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

 

5 Favourite Quotes

Lately, I have been feeling uninspired and unmotivated, which is the complete opposite of the high I was feeling just over 2 weeks ago. But that’s life, the wave just keeps going up and down. During those times of the low wave, I know how I get; I get anxious, I want to stay home all day and I feel blah. But one thing that always sheds even the tiniest bit of light through those times is quotes. Writing speaks to my soul, especially when the soul needs a boost or some healing, words tend to help.

So here are 5 of my favorite quotes:

  1. “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams” – Oprah Winfrey

  2. “Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve” – J.K. Rowling

  3. “We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action. Fear is natures way of warning us to get busy” – Dr. Henry Link

  4. “As long as you’ve got passion, faith and are willing to work hard, you can do anything you want in this life”– Anonymous

  5. “For what its worth: Its never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you are not, I hope you have the strength to start over” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

During those lower waves remember the high waves you had and that they will come back soon.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Sunday Nights

It is currently 8pm on a Sunday night, and I have not stopped this entire weekend between work, events, chores and just life in general. I got home from my shift at work and realized just how disastrous my brain felt and how all over the place I was. This is definitely not a good way to start off the week, so I’m going to run you over a few things I like to do to prepare for the week ahead.

  1. Pamper yourself

Whether that be with a facemask, bubble bath, personal hygiene or even having some ice cream, take some time out of your night to pamper yourself. Sometimes even just keep up with personal hygiene can be pampering ourselves because we don’t have enough time to do it during the week.

2. Plan your week out

Instead of heading into the week completely blind, take a look at whats coming up. You can also meal plan, organize your time, plan out workouts, weekly or daily budgets etc. Just take a few minutes to plan your week and trust me you will feel less overwhelmed and stressed.

3. Think of outfits to wear

We all have those times where our alarm goes off and we snooze it too many times so we end up running late in the mornings. But we can fix that! Other than training yourself not to snooze, you can preplan outfits. Just go through your closet, and really look at all your clothes and see what outfits you can have. I make sure to always have that one comfy outfit, a dressy one and an in-between always in the back of my head. It makes mornings during the week so much simpler.

4. Set your intentions

How do you want this week to do? What goals do you want to get done? Why do you want them to get done? How do you want to spend your time and energy this week? Think about what this week can hold and all the amazing things you can do.

Lastly, take a few moments to think about the endless possibilities that this week has, and the adventure and craziness it can bring.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful week!

Sarah

Why is This Happening to Me?

Sometimes we wonder “Why is this happening to me?” The usual answer that follows is something along the lines of “Life isn’t fair” or “You somehow, in some way deserved whatever is happening to you”. Although those might be true, people often forget that things happen to us because it’s those are the consequences of a series of actions. Our actions, other’s actions, rules that need to be followed, morals or principles that apply all determine the consequence or result of something. Things don’t just happen to you. Things happen to you because many decisions led to that thing happening to you.

At the end of the day, you can think of it in a negative way, or you can see it in a positive way. Recently at my part-time job, I am not getting a lot of hours. Which sucks because the goal of any student working in the summer is to save up as much money as possible. So, I could sit here and wonder, why me? Or I could look at it from a different perspective. I can see this as the universe giving me an opportunity to focus on my blog more, to spend more time with people I’ve been meaning to by haven’t been able to, or maybe to volunteer.

You always have the choice to look at the answer to the “Why is this happening to me?” question and decide how you will react to it. You can see it as a bad thing, and that the universe is trying to ruin your life, or you can see it as the universe forcing you to realize things in your life that need to be dealt with.

But do keep in mind, many things that happen in life, happen because its a way to test us, to make us stronger and to grow as a person. Not all bad things that happen to us are intrinsically bad.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

5 Tips to Enjoy your Summer

Today I focused on spending time with the people I love so I do not have the most well thought out blog post for you all. But I thought it would be fun to create my own version of a top 5 tips (fill in the blank) list that we see all over Pinterest and internet. I decided to make mine, so here are my top 5 tips for enjoying your summer!

  • Get outside

In this part of Canada, we enjoy all 4 seasons throughout the year (or in a day). But summer is when everything is really green and lush and being outside is bearable. Until we reach 30 degrees Celsius and everyone starts freaking out because its way too hot. But still, go outside and enjoy nature and all that it has to offer.

  • Be proactive in planning things

If you wait until other people plan things, then nothing is going to happen. You need to step it up, reach out to people and make the plans yourself.

  • Wake up early

Summer mornings are like no other. The birds are chirping, the air is warm and fresh, and humidity won’t be settling in for a few more hours. It’s the perfect time to just let your mind wander or be still, to stop and be in the moment or to get outside and be active.

  • Make an ideas list, but not a bucket list

Now I know that sounds odd but from personal experience its what works best. During the summer, if I had planned out a huge list of things I wanted to do, I often found that a few weeks into summer I couldn’t accomplish them. That feeling was magnified as the end of summer approached and I felt like I had done nothing. Instead, I created an ideas list, which is kind of like a bucket list but different. It’s different because my commitment level to the things I wanted to do was not there. It was just an idea I had, and if it got done then yay! But if not, I wouldn’t feel miserable or like I had wasted away my summer. Simply, it was creating a list of things I wanted to do but removing the expectation that I had to accomplish everything on it.

  • Do things you don’t normally do

When we are working or in school, we often put things that make us happy on the backburner, because we have more pressing things to do. But the summer is that one time of year you can catch up on all those books you have in the to-be-read pile. It’s the time when you can learn a new sport, or pick up an instrument you haven’t practiced in months. Use the summer months as a time to do all things you are passionate about but have been pushing off all year.

So those are some easy and quick tips about 5 things you should take into account this summer.

If you have any tips on how to enjoy your summer then please feel free to leave them down below!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Pessimistic –> Optimistic

For most of my teenage years,  up until about a year and a half ago, I was known for being cynical and pessimistic.

In my mind, everything was doomed, the worst-case scenario became the only scenario, and everything could just go wrong at any instant but nothing could ever go right. Quite honestly, looking back at who I used to be, I wonder how people even put up with me. But there came a time where I started looking inwards more, I started realizing that this pessimistic life I was living would not bring me anywhere or make me a better person.

I learned that what you put out into the universe is what you get back. Simply, what you give is what you get.

If you start putting positive energy into the world then guess what? Positivity comes your way! Now you can’t just go and have a positive thought and expect your life to fall into place because that’s just unrealistic. But the idea that if I put positive energy towards others, the world in general and myself, things will start to change dramatically.

My life did not take a 180 turn, but at the same time, it did. What happened was that my mentality changed. The perspective I had of the world was filled with a more positive and optimistic shade rather than the negative and pessimistic lens that had clouded my mind for so long.

There came a point where I couldn’t take it anymore, where I was suffocating myself with my negativity. And you want to know how freaky my life is? I journaled about that day a year ago, today. I look now at where I am and see that day, June 4th, 2017, as the turning point of my life.

I saw that something needed to change and it all began with the way I was thinking

This isn’t to say that as of that day I was a happy-go-lucky-ray-of-sunshine. It took a lot of time to train my brain not to jump to the worst-case scenario, to have faith in the universe and how to be positive in situations where I would normally be negative.

When you actively make the choice that something needs to change, and you recognize your own toxic behaviors, then things will start to change.

Recognize your toxic behaviors, pinpoint what you want and whats been holding you back from achieving these things (usually the toxic behaviors), and find ways to change that mentality.

I hope this is a wake-up call for anyone you who feel stuck. Just know that you are the only person who can change your life, and you can do it any moment.

Feel free to share any experiences down below where you have felt your mentality shift and what that was like!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

 

Stepping out of your comfort zone

This weekend has definitely been different than any other weekend I could have ever experienced. The only way I could sum up tit up is that I stepped way out of my comfort zone–I mean like I jumped a kilometer out of my comfort zone.  Today I am going to tell you 3 stories or times when I stepped out of my comfort zone and how they changed me, so here they are.

About a month ago this stepping out of my comfort zone began when I went to a zip line obstacle course. One thing you need to know about me is that I am not an outdoorsy gal, and climbing trees is not my strong suit. But here I was with my friends, about 2 hours away from home, in a tree (don’t worry its very safe and you’re attached properly to a harness) and I was shitting myself, for a lack of better words. I had to do the obstacle course, and really there was a point I was going to give up. But my friends encouraged me and kept me going. I finished the obstacle course and felt relieved. It was only on the drive back that I realized just how out of my comfort zone I was. But thanks to my friends and myself, I kept pushing through the anxiety and the stress and just kept going. I would have regretted if I had stopped, and one of my friends at the end even said she was glad I didn’t stop because I wouldn’t have had as much fun and she knew I could do it. A part of me knew I could do it too, but this was very out of my comfort zone. But I did it, I stepped out of my comfort zone and was rewarded with the feeling that I accomplished something I would not normally do and that is a big deal for me.

The second time I stepped out of my comfort zone was this past Friday. My member of parliament for my district (the person who represents us in the Canadian parliament) was hosting a 5 a 7 to get to know the younger crowds in her constituency and to talk about the youth council she wanted to form. Now how is this stepping out of my comfort zone? Well, I went alone to an event where I knew absolutely no one. I literally knew not a single person and had no idea what to expect. Even more shockingly, before and during the event I did not feel anxious at all. This is very new feeling for me because even in basic social situations I tend to get anxious, but with this event, I didn’t. I got there and talked to a few people and was being my true and genuine self. I felt light and alive and just me. It truly felt amazing. I stepped out of my comfort zone and realized that stepping out of my comfort zone doesn’t mean I am abandoning who I am by any means. It just means I am taking myself, the person I am most comfortable with, and dropping in on a situation I’m not used to.

When you are truly comfortable with who you are and just yourself in general, being put into situations you are not used to, becomes a whole lot easier because you have yourself to rely on. I wasn’t anxious because I trusted who I was, and I let myself be me. When we try to construct who we are, we start to care about what other people think and how we will be, how we should act or what we should say, and that’s what causes us to be anxious. Obviously, there are many other reasons, but for me, that’s what starts my anxiety.

Lastly, yesterday I went to a girl’s empowerment summit (I wrote a mini blog post about it yesterday) and I went alone. I mean I was planning to spend 10am-4pm all alone. I truly don’t mind being alone, I like spending time with myself. But what worried me was how were people going to see me? Was anyone going to think I was a loner? But that was not the case at all.

I met so many amazing girls who were so genuine and had beautiful souls. I again was just being me the entire time and everything fell into place. I was not planning to go, but there was a small part of me that was like you need to go!  I acted on that part the night before and next thing you know they were scanning my ticket at the entrance and handing me a goody bag. I stepped out of my comfort zone and ended up being motivated, inspired and in awe of all the absolutely incredible women that spoke at the summit and the girls I met in the audience.

You see stepping out of your comfort zone is not so bad when you trust yourself. When you start to understand that who you are is beautiful, brave, courageous, amazing, inspiring and so many other amazing qualities.Then you too, will be able to leap out of your comfort zone. You need to have your back and have faith in yourself in order to step of out your comfort zone.

This did not happen overnight, and quite frankly I have something today that requires me to step out of my comfort zone and I am not entirely okay with it. But I trust myself and will genuinely be myself and that is what counts.

Be yourself and accept yourself. You will be amazed at just how capable you are of doing things you would not normally do.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful Sunday!
Sarah

Screw It!

Today I went to a girl’s empowerment summit, the first of its kind in my city. I genuinely had no idea what to expect, and only bought the ticket last night at 9pm.

I had known about the event for a month, but I couldn’t actually bring myself to buy the ticket and go to the event. I asked a few people if they wanted to come with me, but none of them could, so I had to do something I would never have dreamed of doing—I had to go to the event alone!

When I got there I was a little anxious, but I honestly thought I would be more anxious than I was. I made eye contact with a girl who was sitting alone, and I was about to sit at another table alone, but something in my brain was like “screw it, go sit with the girl!”

I did just that and did the same thing at lunch. I got to meet so many amazing girls, and have genuine, intellectual and interesting conversations.

All this to say that when that little voice in the back of your head says screw it, then you screw it and just go for it. You won’t realize just how powerful overcoming the anxious or negative thoughts in your head can be, but trust me, pushing through your anxiety so worth it. I’m not saying it can be done overnight, this has been years in the making, and I am not 100% anxiety free by any means. But this is progress… baby steps!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Plan With Me: June

Ahh the beginning of the month, a fresh new start. Technically any new day can be a fresh start, but there’s just something about the beginning of the month that just breathes all things new and refreshing!

This month I decided to share with you all how I plan out my month, even if I am not in school. One thing I had to get used to this past month was transitioning from having a strict organized schedule, where I could see what was happening weeks in advance, to something a lot more lose and unpredictable. I’m sure we are all used to this, going into summer mode takes a bit of time to get used to. My summer days are slightly predictable in that I know when I work, but other than that nothing is set in stone. Usually not having everything planned stresses me out, but my motto for this summer is “Go with the Flow”. This is me, actively trying to embrace the endless possibility of a summer day.

But without further ado, let’s get into planning the month of June! (Also, just for reference, I use ban.do 18-month agenda from August 2017-December 2018.)

The first thing I do is fill out everything I already know. I’ll start by putting in when I work, any birthdays or events happening this month, and the list of pre-determined blog ideas that I have scheduled (I’m uploading 4 times a week this month, so get excited!).

Once that’s done I turn to my goals for the month. But right before doing that, I take a look back at my goals from the previous month. I am a firm believer in reflecting and thinking about what we did right or wrong, and what we can do to improve or change things if need be. This definitely carries through when I am actually planning and setting goals for the month ahead. By going back to last months goals, I can see what I didn’t get done and needs to be ASAP. Or maybe there were things I didn’t do because I procrastinate them or didn’t have enough time. But really the goal is to find out the reasons why I didn’t accomplish certain goals, so I can learn from them, or look back on things I did that helped me accomplish a goal.

I divide my goals into 3 categories. The first being personal goals, now this can be anything from booking a doctor’s appointment, a haircut, how many books I want to read, go to this event etc.

Next is my blogging goals, this month my blog is going to be one of my top priorities, so I created some goals to help me stick by that.

Lastly, I have my financial goals. I don’t have my entire work schedule for the month of June yet, but I can usually estimate how much I will earn in about a week. But regardless, I set a range of how much money I want to save up this month and how much I will be able to spend. A new little thing that I added to my agenda this month was an expense box in each day’s slot. This way, when I get home at the end of the day I can see how much I spent, and at the end of the month, I can see which days I spent the most and where that money went exactly.

Another different thing I wanted to do for this summer was make an idea’s list of fun activities to do during the summer. Whether that be getting drinks, going for a picnic, stopping by the cutest little coffee shops. Really just ideas I can jump to when we all hit that point in the summer where we don’t know what to do with ourselves.

So that is how I planned for the month of June. But do remember summer is upon us, which means we have a lot more time to go out and explore and embrace the fact that we are not bound to a schedule, so make the most of it!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

My Updated Notebook+Stationery Collection

My Updated Notebook and Stationery Collection

I have a sort of unhealthy obsession with all things notebook and stationery. Put me in a bookstore or a stationery store and you could leave me there all day (give me some coffee and food and I am never leaving)! Today I decided to share with you all some beautiful and amazing notebooks, pens and post its.

If this post interests you, make sure to check out my previous favorite notebooks post by clicking here: https://thelifewedreamof.com/2017/03/17/my-favourite-notebooks/

(Just to let you know that everything is from indigo.ca (not an affiliate link) except for the post-its… I just have an actual obsession with the store).

Motivating Pens

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Sometimes we need those little bursts or little quotes to keep us going. I know that when I’m going to be knee deep in a 15-page essay, a little motivation will go a long way. We tend to buy the standard blue and black pen, but spicing things up or making things cuter adds to a certain aesthetic but personally, it makes me more motivated to write. I love how these pens are adorable and have the most inspiring little quotes on them, which motivates me to conquer the world.

Goal Getter

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We all have goals but keeping them in one place where we can constantly go back to is the key to making these goals a reality. I use this notebook to write down and structure my short-term goals that are contributing to a long-term goal. The notebook breaks down your goal, gives you a slot for a deadline, makes you set your Why for the goal, predict the outcomes you will face and the necessary steps to take, as well as what you will reward yourself with once your goal is reached. This notebook keeps me organized and accountable.

Effortlessly Herself

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When I read the quote, it stuck with me and I knew I had to have it. The quote reads “She was one of the rare ones so effortlessly herself, and the world loved her for it”. Every time I need a reminder of who I am and where I’m going I go back to this quote and let it guide me in my way.

There Is Beauty in Simplicity

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As aesthetically pleasing as this notebook is, I use it more for the practicality it offers. I have multiple notebooks like this one but with different covers because they make the perfect notebooks. I use them in class to take notes, for miscellaneous things and this one is being used for anything to do with habits and my blog.

Quote Away

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This is my dream/vision notebook. Anything I want to do, any dream of the future that I have is marked down in this journal. This is where I dream big and not let anything hold me back. When I first saw the cover, I knew that this journal would hold all the dreams that had to come out of my head.

Meet Me in Paris

This is the cutest set of post its I have ever seen; however, this is not from indigo, unfortunately. I bought them with the intention to use them when I plan my study abroad semester in Paris in a few months.

I love writing, dreaming and thinking. Notebooks, pens, stationery in general, are the tools I use to express who I am and what I want from life, and how I am going to get there. Before anything on this blog is published, it all starts off in these notebooks. Writing for me is like keeping a record of my life, and thoughts and I write so much because there are so many ideas and dreams that I want to reach and accomplish.

I hope this gave you some motivation to pick up a cute notebook and pen and write whatever you feel the need to write. Comment down below which one is your favorite notebook.

My Love of Bookstores

A bookstore is constantly alive and awake, even when there is no one in it. There is always something that catches your eye or a quote that resonates with you in a way only words can. I walked into the bookstore today with the intention of doing some retail therapy, rather than hit the mall, I hit the bookstore.

The minute you open that door you are hit with that incredible smell, which some have tried to replicate but it can’t be done unless you stick an actual book to your nose. Then everywhere you look there are all these books! And you can’t help but marvel at just how many people have written books, how many stories are in those books and possibly how many you can buy without breaking your bank account.

But then comes the part I love the most: browsing through the books. I walk up and down the aisles and whichever ones jump out at me are the ones I look at. I get this feeling inside me when I’m in a bookstore. I automatically feel calmer, and at ease with everything. For the time I am in the bookstore the outside world doesn’t exist, and everything happening in my world is put on hold.

Every time I walk into a bookstore its mostly because I need answers. The funny thing is, the answers never come to me in the bookstore itself, and sometimes not even in the books I buy. Rather I come to understand bookstores as a place to let your mind relax, wander, dream and process your life. Our minds in bookstores are simply reflecting the minds of thousands of authors and the characters they have created. The characters all have a challenge to overcome, as do we. The bookstore becomes a tool I use to understand those challenges and figure out how to overcome them or gain the motivation to do so.

Simply to say, if there were no bookstores in the world I seriously do not know how I would be able to face anything in life.

Thanks for reading and leave a comment down below if you love bookstores just as much as I do, or if you don’t like them!

Sarah

Sunday Morning Thoughts — 4

Welcome to another Sunday morning thoughts!

Now I am cheating a bit because these thoughts did not come to me on this gloomy Sunday morning… wait the sun seems to be peaking out!

Rather it was last night right before I fell asleep and was reflecting on the royal wedding that this thought about the fairy-tale life came to mind, and I just wanted to share it with you all.

When we were little girls, we often saw a fairy-tale ending as being a princess with a castle, and a pumpkin turning into a carriage. But as we grew up, and discovered more about the world and ourselves, that idea of a fairy-tale life started to change. The interesting part is that it became so different for everyone.

For some, a fairy-tale life may be living in Bali or owning a penthouse overlooking central park. Or perhaps it’s traveling the world with a loved one; having a house with a white picket fence; owning your own business, or staying home and raising your children.

All this to say that every woman has a different idea of a fairy-tale life, and is no longer confined to the stereotypical idea of princess=fairy-tale happy endings. But then again if that’s your dream or ideal life, then go ahead!

We should not judge or criticize a woman for what type of life she deems to be fairy tale worthy! Every woman deserves the right to freely follow their heart and live the life they want. And no one should be allowed to say anything about it!

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful Sunday!

Sarah

Hard Work Pays Off

Working hard pays off. We prove that to ourselves time and time again. So why is it that when things get tough we forget what we’re made of? Why do we forget who we are and what we have accomplished so far?

I get it when we’re in the time of actually hustling and bustling, we think to ourselves when will this end? Is all this work truly worth it? Why am I doing this in the first place? All reasonable and normal questions. The part of that thinking that causes problems is when we start thinking if whether or not we should give up.

Giving up seems tempting, it really does. Often the relief we know we will feel becomes very appealing. The only thing is, is that there will be this little voice in the back of your head saying “what if”? What if you had kept going or what if you had just gone one step further?

Whenever I think about giving up I take a step back from everything and examine if I really want to truly give up. Often times those haste decisions we make to give up on something is just that, a hasty decision. Its not a well-thought-out decision, nor does it reflect all the things, time and energy that you have put in, up to that point.

I understand that sometimes the hard work of the goal you are trying to reach becomes too much, but if it is something you truly want I do not think you should ever give up. Working hard does pay off, and sometimes we just need that small reminder to fuel the rest of our journey.

I hope you never give up on your dreams and keep pushing through.

Hard work pays off.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

I Hope…

I hope you one day you get to travel the world, explore your town and find the little things in life.

I hope you find what makes you laugh, cry, jump for joy, hungry, sad, or even mad.

I hope you live life to the fullest.

I hope you overcome those fears in your life that are blocking you from pursuing the path you know you were meant to be on.

I hope you dance in the rain, watch the sunrise and breathe in some fresh air on a mountain.

I hope you fully accept yourself for you truly love.

I hope you allow yourself to be open to others, to yourself and the world.

I hope you are open to love and to giving love to others.

I hope you live a life you are proud of.

I hope you live the life you have always wanted.

 

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Resetting After a Long Semester

Hopefully, you are done with school, or at least very close to the end of it. A special sorry for all of you brave souls who are taking summer classes, you deserve a medal!

This past school year has been beyond brutal as I am sure many of you in school can understand. And the weirdest feeling is that we hope the end is so close, but once we get to the end it feels weird to not have to be studying, stressing or panicking. In a matter of just hours, you can go from intense cramming to having absolutely nothing left to do. While this is a relief, it can also come as a shock, as it does for me every single time the school year comes to an end.

The end of the semester is a rather draining and hectic time of year, and usually pushes students over the edge and into this mental state that is nowhere near healthy. When its over, the only question that remains is how do I go back to normal? How do I get you of this mental state? Which is why today I wanted to share 3 tips or tricks on how to reset or recharge after a long semester.

1) Accept the grades
This one is definitely a hard pill to swallow. We all anxiously wait by our computers and refresh the page a hundred times a day just to see if a new mark was posted by our professors. Once the mark is posted we usually chicken out and avoid looking at it, but eventually, curiosity gets the best of us and we look at the grade.

Once you do check the mark, accepting it is the hardest part. When we get a mark lower than what we expected we feel this disappointment. When we get a good mark, we wonder what we could have done to get an even higher mark. Hopefully, you are noticing a pattern… we never accept that we did the best we could at that moment and in those circumstances. You worked your butt off, put all your energy into your school work, but at the end of the day, there is nothing more you could have done. The mark is in the system and that’s the mark you got. (Obviously, if you believe its unfair for whatever reason, then contest it and fight for the mark you think you deserve.)

Look at your mark and understand that you did what you did and that what you got is what you got. If you want to move on from this school year, you need to accept the mark you got.

2) Reward yourself
Its been a long semester, and you have probably pushed off your needs or wants and overall self-care because it wasn’t on your to-do list. When you reach the end of the semester, there is no problem with treating yourself or rewarding yourself. Plan a mini vacation, treat yourself to a spa day with the girls, go to a museum.

Heck, sleep for 12 hours straight! This is the summer you have nothing else to do! Okay maybe you have other things to do but catching up on your sleep is extremely important.

3) Go with the flow
I also talked about this in my last blog post, but really, I think this will be my motto for the summer. During the semester I plan and schedule everything imaginable, and you need to if you want to stay on top of everything. But during the summer, you might have some commitments to follow, but other than that you probably don’t. Take the summer to just go with things and take whatever comes your way. Someone suggests to go for ice cream, go for ice cream. Spontaneous day trip? Why not! Enjoy the openness of summer and how freeing it can truly be.

Thanks for reading, and to all you students out there you really do deserve this break!!

Have a wonderful day!

Sarah

A Weekend Getaway

This past weekend, myself and 3 of my close friends decided to reward ourselves after a long year of university with a mini weekend getaway to Canada’s capital, Ottawa. Seeing as how we lived only 2 hours away it seemed like the perfect opportunity to get away but not be too far from home.

When we came up with this idea a month ago it was very spurred of the moment. We were talking, and I got the idea and voila it was decided that we would go! A week later the hotel was booked, and we didn’t continue planning it until the week off because we were so busy with school.

Once we got to the week of the trip, we somehow had to plan this trip, with 4 very different people with different interests. But somehow, we made it work. I truly believe we did a bit of everything that you can do on a trip, and plus there was lots of good food. So here are just a few tips on how to plan a weekend getaway!

1)    Go with the flow and be open to change

This had to be the hardest thing I had to deal with on the trip because I need everything scheduled and planned before it is executed. Unfortunately, life cannot always be that way. On the first day we arrived we had planned to get there earlier than we did and planned to do a lot more. But by the time we got there we were hungry, the tour of parliament was a lot later than expected, things were just not going as planned. You could get angry and frustrated, but truly what’s the point? It is entirely out of your control and you can’t change it. This is when you need to go with the flow! When I went for the flow it became fun, light and easy. Going with the flow on vacation just makes you stress less and be more relaxed.

2)    Consider what everyone wants to do

Now be careful when you do this because realistically speaking this can cause some problems. But again, you are going to need to compromise. On this trip, we were all very different people who wanted to do different things. Some of us wanted to go to a play, a bar, museums, restaurants, the parliament and the supreme court, ziplining, how on earth did we manage to do all that?  Well, we compromised, instead of going to all the museums we went to the one that the most of us wanted to go to. We only went to a bar one night, and then went to a board game lounge the next night. We went to a play, but we also went to a ziplining obstacle course. We tried to include something for everyone, and that’s a way that they will make everyone happy.

3)    Pack smart

We all overpacked, we tried not to, but we did. One of my friends packed 7 pairs of shoes, yet only ended up wearing 3 pairs. I get it, we need options. And the fact that the weather at this time of the year is very unpredictable means that you need to pack for any circumstance. But at the end of the day, you really only need 2 pants, a pair of tights, 2-3 pairs of shoes and like 4 tops. After all, it is a 3-day trip. Some say that when you pack for 3 days, you are essentially packing for a week. Which is 100% true but pack the essentials the proper attire depending on what you will plan to do and the weather. But be aware of how much you are packing and what you are packing.

4)    Be in the moment

Sometimes when we get back from trips we feel as if it didn’t happen, but I wanted to make sure that didn’t happen. All I did was at certain moments in the day I would just remind myself to stop thinking, breathe in for a second and look around where I was. Truly feel what I am feeling, feel what is going on around me and what was happening at that moment. In a way, it is like you are cementing those moments in your soul, which we need to do more of.

This trip was exactly what I needed after the hell that was this semester. If you are lucky enough to take a weekend trip I seriously recommend it. It doesn’t need to be 6 hours away by plane, it can be something as simple as a 2-hour drive away from home.

Hope you are all having a wonderful day, and thanks for reading!

Sarah

 

My First Year of University

You need a break. You need to slow things down and realize that you are only human.

Nearing the end of my first year of university I kept telling myself this, it reached a point where I was so exhausted, I was just dizzy all the time.

When the year started I didn’t realize just what could happen to my me school-wise, life wise and with a part-time job thrown into the mix. I didn’t realize that I couldn’t plan every second because there would be times I would need to switch shifts and it would ruin my perfect studying plan. Or that there would be days where other things took up to much time and I ran out of time for other things.

This school year has been rough, not necessarily because of the course load, but because of life. Life this year had just thrown everything it had at me and continued to knock me to the ground.

The night before my last exam, which was just a few days ago, I had just come home from a shift at work, it was a short one but a hectic one (I work in retail), and I sat down to study and just started crying. It wasn’t because I was worried about that exam, rather it was an accumulation of everything I had been holding in for the past 2 months. I cried and cried and cried. I felt so tired that my eyes kept shutting. As I tried to read my notes I couldn’t read the sentences out loud and I kept getting dizzy. I couldn’t handle it anymore so before 9 pm I went to bed.

The next morning when I woke up I realized just how hard I had pushed myself this semester. I wanted to prove to myself that I could work, go to school, see friends and family and overall maintain a perfect balance. This isn’t to say that that balance is not possible, but I can tell you that it is nowhere near easy. I didn’t have to work, I choose to. I didn’t need to take 5 classes, I choose to. I choose those options because I wanted to prove to myself that I could do all that and hold it together.
But holding it together all the time comes at a cost, one way or another you will reach your breaking point. We forget that we are human and that what we do does not determine or set in stone the future path we will take.

It’s good to have goals, dreams, and aspiration, but at what cost? For me, the cost was losing touch with people close to me, not spending enough time with my family when they needed me the most, and overall hurting my mental health and myself.
All this to say, you do not need to have this perfect balanced life all the time. You are human, you can fall apart and cry, and just be a mess. Its okay to take a break and it’s important to listen to yourself and know your limits.

This might sound negative but besides this, I did truly love my first year of university. I met so many amazing people, and I learned so many new things.
To all those entering university in the fall, just remember that you do not need to do it all and that you need to listen to yourself and how you feel.

This was part of the reason I have been away from the blog, but now summer vacation is here and I fully intend on jumping back into the blog and making it better than ever.

Stay tuned because The Life We Dream Of is back in full force!
Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!
Sarah

Breathe

I have been extremely anxious and stressed recently. To the point where I started crying in public transportation…

Don’t get to that point.

Then one of my friends just looked at me and said, “You need to breathe”.

For 2 weeks, I hadn’t stopped and remembered to breathe.

So this is me comforting you when you were just crying in the one place you would never be, and the only thing I can tell you is to breathe.

Take a breather and remember that everything will work out in the end. Have faith in the universe and have faith in yourself.

Sarah

Sunday Morning Thoughts — 3

“The challenge now is to practice politics as the art of making what appears to be impossible, possible”

Last night I finished reading Hillary Clinton’s book “What Happened”. I did not realize until the very end of that book and this quote that I found in the last few pages, how much I needed this book.

Maybe surprisingly to some of you, I want to pursue a career in politics. People assume that politics automatically mean politician, but people so often forget the amount of a team puts in and behind the scenes of politicians and politics. This book was the tiny lighter I needed to re-ignite that spark that had dimmed a long time ago.

I love politics, I love challenges, making others think, trying to do what is best for people and making the impossible seem possible. It brings this thrill and I feel oddly at peace when I am working on anything that touches politics. I’m not looking for people to challenge me on Hillary Clinton, I would defend her until the end (and I am not even American), but I want to just convey that this book helped me. It made me realize that I could have a career in what I am studying and that one day I can live a life where I get to live out my passion every day.

I hope you find those books, movies, songs etc. that ignite that spark that dimmed in your soul. You need that, more than you think.

Thanks for joining me on another Sunday Morning Thoughts! Have a wonderful Sunday and get excited because you are going to have a fantastic week!

Sarah

5 Ways to Recharge on Busy Days

We all have those days where we wake up and just know it’s going to be a long day that is going to require a lot of energy. But as we all know the energy we have the beginning of the day tends to wear out as the day goes on. So today I wanted to give you all 5 tips on how to recharge throughout those long, draining and hectic days we tend to have often. Hope they can be of use!

  1. When you get ready in the morning to take 5 minutes just to sit in silence. If I do this in the morning it brings this sense of peace and serenity to start the day off right and help me feel refreshed and ready to go.
  2. If at some point throughout the day you feel very tired try going outside, or at least crack a window open. Taking in some fresh air makes you feel more awake, alert and allows you to breathe.
  3. Take a bathroom break. Run to a bathroom just standing in the stall, gives you a chance to breathe. Might sound weird but sometimes it’s the only few moments in the day we can afford to take for ourselves. Plus, no one will bother you in a bathroom.
  4. Meditate. Some people are very into meditation, I am a pure beginner but having those moments of peace and mindful breathing refreshes you in a way I can’t explain, but you need to experience it for yourself.
  5. Know that it is okay to take breaks. If you have a jam-packed schedule and there is something you don’t have to do immediately, you have every right to cancel this plan or postpone it, if it means taking a breather and regaining your sanity.

Remember that in those messy, hectic and chaotic days you have the right to take a few moments for yourself to recharge. We do not expect you to work 12-16 hours and not take a moment to yourself or to breathe. Make yourself and your well-being a priority even if your to-do list is the size of your arm.

Thanks for reading and make sure to follow The Life We Dream Of!

Have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Recharge

This month’s theme is going to be centered around the word: Recharge.
We are finally climbing out of the dreadfully long winter and with that comes spring! A time to recharge, and open our arms up to all things fresh, new and joyous.

Today I want to just briefly talk about the importance of recharging both mentally and emotionally. Last year around this time, I did a Spring Your Life series and you can always refer to those for some additional inspirations.

Recharging means taking time for yourself to re-evaluate your current situation and where you would like to be going, in hopes of restarting or continuing with a fresh and new mindset. When I think of recharging I know I need to be alone for a few hours or however long it is necessary and just go through what has been happening in the past few months, what’s going on now and how I would like the future to be.

Mentally and emotionally recharging is one of the harder things we need to do, but it is also one of the most needed things we need. Meditation is a great place to start, there are an endless number of apps or YouTube videos that have guided meditation for beginners if you’re anything like me and the world of meditation is a bit of a challenge. But if not I usually just journal, in a non-traditional way, the best way I can explain it is free writing.

Grab a pen, some paper and write everything and anything that comes to mind. Write what’s happened to you, things that made you happy or sad; moments of achievement and or of failure, your favorite memories etc. When you get really into this exercise you won’t even notice the time go by, but by the end of it you might feel a tad lighter, well I know I do. It’s like taking everything that has been swirling in your mind for the past few months and word vomiting it on to paper.

When that’s done I go back and try to reread what I wrote, which is usually in gibberish and horrible handwriting, but nonetheless, the point is for you to see your train of thought and all that has happened. The trickier part now is accepting the things that have happened, owning the situation you are in now, and hoping that all will be okay in the future. The recharging part is what allows us to hope, it’s what gives us the energy to dream, create, set goals.

By reflecting on ourselves, our actions and thoughts we are giving ourselves a chance to stop, feel the fatigue and the drain we have been feeling for a long time. Knowing that means we can find the way to wash that all away, either by journaling, working out, a retreat, a vacation etc.
We need to recharge because it resets our outlook on life and gives us a clear and refreshed view of life and what’s to come. Looking at the world through a gray, sad, looming dark sky doesn’t make anything better in our lives. But looking out with a bit of optimism, the possibility that we can literally do anything brings this certain type of light that everyone needs to keep living.

Take a few moments out of your life to recharge because, in the end, it will help you emotionally and mentally. Leave a comment down below on how you like to recharge or prepare for spring!
Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!
Sarah

Girl Boss Quotes

We have reached the end of March and honestly, it flew by so quickly. This month was all about being a girl boss and empowering yourself and other women. We looked at overcoming obstacles, being productive, your self-worth, happiness and just life in general. Just because the month is over doesn’t mean I will step away from the girl boss world, because it has become a part of who I am and I hope it has become part of your life.

So to end the girl boss month I thought I would leave you all with a few girl boss quotes that continually inspire me.

“She Remembered who She was and the Game Changed”

“Your Worth is not Measured by Your Productivity”

“Drink Coffee and Pretend to know what You are Doing”

“She Leaves a Little Sparkle Everywhere She Goes”

“She Believed She Could So She Did”

“She Designed a Life She Loved”

I hope you all take some of these quotes to heart and go forward into this wonderful life. Never forget how amazing, unique, talented and spectacular you are.

Thank you for all the new followers who have joined The Life We Dream Of community, and if you are new follow along on this crazy journey we all share, called life.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

 

Accepting Yourself

An important quality that you need to adopt on your journey to becoming a girl boss is acceptance. Now, what do I mean by that, after all, it is a rather broad term. I mean it in this broad way, but mostly with the idea that you need to accept who you are and the circumstances, you have been put in.

I struggled with this a lot, why didn’t I like the same things as most of my friends? Why did that make me laugh but it didn’t make anyone else laugh? Why did I get so affected by things that they seemed not to give a second thought about? It took me a lot of time to accept who I was. It takes a lot to come to terms with who you are as a person because more often than not you are someone beyond society’s construct of who you should be and noticign that, is like trying to understand something out of the norm, but actually being different is very normal.

I love reading, writing and blogging, while some of my friends liked dancing, partying, a musical instrument etc. I was a stark difference in personality with the people I grew up with. I couldn’t understand how I became so different when we had grown up in the same circumstances. But that’s when I realize that just because we went to the same school that did not mean that everything in our lives was similar. Even the way situations affect and how we react to them differs so much.

I couldn’t accept how different I was for the 5 years I was in high school (here its 5 years not 4) and that tore into my self-esteem and destroyed a lot of the confidence I even had left. Then I went to college and found people who were exactly like me, and that also terrified me. At the same time who was I to think I was so different and special? Truth is those people who I thought were very similar to me were nothing like me at all. Why? Because their circumstances were even more different than mine.

If you can’t see what I am getting at, let me clarify. You as a person are unlike any other person on this planet. No matter how much you try to fit in you will never be able to. That shouldn’t make you feel bad if anything it made me feel free because it meant I didn’t have to keep trying to be someone I was no. Girl bosses you need to understand that your greatest asset is who you are, your skills, your thoughts and everything you bring to the table. If you can’t see how amazing and unique you are then you will be bringing to the table, the same thing as everyone else.

How do you get this point? Acceptance. You need to accept and remember who you are. Remember the shit you have been through and how you have risen from those ashes. You need to accept the circumstances the cards you’ve been dealt, it might be unfair but its what you got. You can sit around and pout or find a way to make the most of those cards. The circumstances who have been put in and your personality match up for a reason, they were put together because the universe knew that you as a person can overcome and change these circumstances.

It all starts with acceptance. Accept yourself for who you truly are, and I promise you will feel so free. Then accept your circumstances and realize that the universe is also giving you cards to get out or change it. Girl bosses you are fierce, strong, resilient and a fantastic human being, and you need to accept all those parts of you and even the parts that you might not like. They make up who you are and no one else on earth can be like you.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Sunday Morning Thoughts — 2

This morning as I was sipping my coffee I kept re-evaluating last night and just how I feel in general. The thought that I might not be interesting enough and just plain boring has become a constant fear of mine. Everyone I meet or talk to, I can’t help but think, “do you think I’m boring?”

Time and time again I have to talk myself out of this because no, I am not boring and neither are you! Everyone is so different from one another how could you possibly be like anyone else? You have so much to offer the world how could you be boring? You’re not! In no way, shape or form are you boring. You might be different than certain people in your life, but you are special and unique.

Just a reminder to you all as we begin the week, embrace who you are and understand that you don’t have to try and fit in. You are so interesting, special and amazing, just because you aren’t like other people, does not make you boring.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

The Other Side of Confidence

Recently I published a post called “The power of feeling confident” and it resonated with quite a few people. That day I felt on top of my game, I felt amazing in my skin, my hair was cooperating, and it was sunny outside which always puts me in a better mood.

But today, the tables on confidence have turned. This weekend I have to go clubbing, it has been something I have pushed off and made so many excuses to not go but I reached a point where I ran out of excuses and if I didn’t go I think my friends would be beyond mad at me. This for me at least, takes a lot of confidence. I was just in the changing rooms at forever 21 and everything I tried on just looked weird. It was too cropped so showed this part I didn’t like, or it made me look fat or strange. I was looking for tops I thought were clubbing tops, but in no way did they make me feel amazing or comfortable. I tried on a top with my jeans and couldn’t believe how fat my hips and thighs looked. I was in this deep dark moment of self-hatred and I quickly realized I needed to get out of it.

I left the changing room and went to look other tops that were not any means grandma tops but were not overly revealing or clubbing material. I think a huge part of confidence is accepting yourself as you are. I had to accept that cropped tiny tops were not for my body shape or my personality, but there are tons of other girls that could totally rock it. I had to shift my mind a bit because it was only according to my mind that my thighs looked huge. No one else saw that but me and if someone did, who cares?  Because I can guarantee you they don’t even care that much either.

Confidence is a funny thing, sometimes you feel like you want to crawl into your bed and never look in the mirror ever again. Other times, you want to take 4903 pictures of yourself because you feel amazing. It can also do a 180 or change at the flip of a switch. The key to not letting it consume you is to accept who you are and every single part of you. I know it takes time and work, trust me I go through it every single day.

You also need to realize that clothing wise you don’t have to completely jump of your comfort zone, obviously don’t be afraid to do so, but baby steps to help. I’m much more of a classic chic gal myself so trying to style myself for clubbing is out of my comfort zone. But once I realized that there could be a middle point or a baby step, then I understood that I don’t need to change who I am.

At the root of it all, I felt like I was changing who I was by trying to dress up as someone I was not. I am so glad that a part of me recognized this because it made me realize that I am who I am. Staying true to who you are, brings you to this reality that being yourself is comfortable and you don’t need others approval or compliments to make you feel good in your skin. It feels just right, and you can feel amazing. The other day when my confidence was up in the charts, I was being and dressing as my truest self.

The key to confidence, in my opinion, is to be yourself. Realize that by being yourself you can tackle anything. And if anyone says anything, screw them. You are genuinely amazing without their approval, and if they comment about what you feel amazing in, then they do not appreciate you or know you well enough.

Be yourself, and it will help build your confidence. Trust that how and who you are is exactly the way you are supposed to be and that you look fantastic no matter what you are wearing.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

The Change in the Narrative

Who I used to be is in no way who I am today. Quite a bold statement to make but there is a key shift that happened to me, that creates a very stark contrast between who I used to be and who I am now. There wasn’t a key event that marked this, rather it was a series of thoughts and hearing different viewpoints that brought this shift upon.
When I was in high school, at an all-girl school, the obvious conversations and comments of cattiness or judgment was something that became part of our everyday language towards one another.

It was only in my last year of high school that the way I viewed other girls around me changed. We had to take an ethics class, which was thought by my teacher who was a proud feminist. She introduced us to the concept of feminism, and to the world outside of this private all-girls school privilege we had grown up in. I am forever grateful for her in my life because it was sitting through her classes that I realized that the way I thought about others around me was so deeply ingrained in me and society. I viewed girls as the competition, I judged them unfairly, I brought them down and was rough in the words I would use to talk about or with them.

But sitting in that ethics class, I realized just the type of person I had become, and I was in no way okay with this. From those moments on, I started becoming more conscious of how I talk about other girls and women and how my words can have a huge impact on them. I also noticed that the way I was, was just how everyone around me was being, but thanks to that class that started to change.

The culture in our school changed with that class, with how we were with one another, and the support that outpoured among us. I met a new group of people, immediately noticed the amount of support they had for one another, how willing they were to give of themselves to the people that cared about them, and how they stood up for what is right. This isn’t to say that this was new for me, but in terms of the girl culture I grew up in, it’s very different. I grew up with the idea that I always had to be better than someone else, I had to know more, look more put together, and always give off the illusion that my life was perfect. They were unapologetically themselves, and they mixed so well together. Thinking about this now, it seems actually amazing.

Now looking back on my high school days, I don’t blame myself for being that way it’s the only thing I knew, its how I was raised. I am just happy that I caught on that living that way or seeing girls in that light was never going to advance myself.

I am proud to say that now I am none of those things. I have learned that the only person I am competing with is myself, and not other girls. I do my absolute best to support my friends and their dreams, and make sure to do whatever I can to help. I try to refrain from talking bad about girls. I try to do a lot of things, but it takes time and effort, and in no way does it happen overnight.

The moral of this long-winded story is that the way we grew up talking and being around girls and women, is no longer the same. The tables have turned, and now more than ever we see girls supporting girls in more ways than imaginable. Support women, encourage them, help them and never bring them down. The key to switching the narrative that society has had for so long is that we need to take steps (even small steps) to change how we view and talk about other girls and women. This narrative can change and it needs to.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

The Power of Feeling Confident

I am writing this on a beautiful Monday morning, and unlike today, the rest of the week is going to be absolute mayhem with little sleep insight. But since one of my classes got canceled this morning I decided to put a little more effort into how I look. I did my hair, put on some makeup and put on an outfit I always feel confident in. Paired with my black little booties, I feel as confident as I can be.

Some might take this like ‘oh I need to spend hours getting ready and getting did up just, so people think I look put together’. And if you think like that then go ahead, but the way I see it is much different. Girl bosses, when you decide what or how much makeup in the morning you should put on, only be doing it with the intention of impressing yourself, with feeling good about yourself. When you wear that killer outfit, whether it be leggings and t-shirt, jeans and a blouse, or a dress, whatever it may be, you wear it with the intent that this will make you feel confident and better.

Because let’s get real, no one else will notice that this outfit might make you feel on top of the world, or that hint of blush that makes you feel just a little perkier, and that the comfiness of those sweats makes you feel like you’re on a cloud.  When you get ready in the morning remember that you how you feel is what is most important.

So, on this Monday morning, get ready in a way that makes you feel amazing. Makeup no makeup, hair did or in that perfect messy bun, do what you want because it makes you feel amazing.

Strut out the door today because you look absolutely fabulous.
Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!
Sarah

Sunday Morning Thoughts

You don’t always have to do what you think is expected of you. You think that this thing is expected of you, you assume that everyone else expects that from you. But in reality, people don’t actually expect that much from you. Don’t take this in the wrong way, but people are busy thinking about many other things, their energy is not concentrated on what you do or don’t do. We put these expectations on ourselves, but we really don’t need to. Usually, the root cause of putting these expectations on yourself is believing that you are confined to something society has made you feel you have to do or have to be. If you feel that way, then you need to understand that society can’t infiltrate your mind and permanently force you to think that society expects certain things from you. You will always have the option to go against the little voice in your head that confines you to something you don’t want to be. You don’t always have to do what you think is expected of you.

This is just a little idea I came up with this morning, and definitely something I want to continue. Its basically just little thoughts that cross my mind on a Sunday morning in bed, drinking my coffee.
Hope you all enjoyed and thanks for reading!
Sarah

Being A Girl Boss Does Not Equal Perfection

Do you realize how much pressure you put on yourself?

Pressure to be perfect, or not fail, or make everyone else happy. We do it all the time, until one point we can’t handle it anymore. Fellow girl bosses, perfection is overrated, failure is a lesson and the first person you need to please is yourself.

We constantly put this pressure on ourselves to be everything and anything; we define our social status by how busy and unavailable we are… how is that a life?

When I first came across the concept of a girl boss, it seemed to come with some heavy associations. I thought that to be a girl boss I need to have It all together, I had to be perfect and I had to constantly be everywhere. But if you have that mentality then stop right now. Stop thinking like that, because a girl boss is none of those things.

The beauty of a girl boss is that you get to make up what defines it and how it fits into your life. There are no criteria or conditions to meet before becoming a girl boss, you just need yourself and faith that you can do anything you put your mind to. That’s it. Nothing else.

A girl boss doesn’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to be running a business by 25, you don’t need to be Instagram famous tomorrow. We don’t have to rush through our lives and try to do everything because we think that will make us a girl boss.

You will become a girl boss when you realize that at the end of the day you are the one that matters. What you want to become, or who you want to become is within reach. But most importantly you are in control of your future and your destiny.

Along the way it will get messy, you will make mistakes and yes, you will fail. But those things shape who you are. A girl boss is not the entirety of your existence, and it can’t be because no words can sum up every amazing bit of you.

A girl boss is a reason or something for you to reach for, but it will not magically make your life perfect because that doesn’t exist. But being a girl boss can offer you the tools and the support you need to go make the changes you need to in your life.

Girl Boss Morning Routine

Today, girl bosses I am going to share with you my girl boss morning routine. Do understand that I am a human and do not do this every morning, but my schedule does allow me to do this mostly on weekends, and ill share some of the things I do on a weekday morning when I have school or work. So here it is!

I am at my most productive in the morning, so I try and wake up as early as possible. The sleep schedule that I have tried so hard to maintain is going to bed around 10:30-11pm and waking up between 7:00-7: 30 am. The first thing I do in the morning is open my blinds and let that natural light in, since it usually puts me in a positive mood, although recently it’s been grey and gloomy here in Canada. Ill go throughout the house and let as much natural light in, because if it looks dark in the house it’s like my brain won’t turn on to morning more.

Next, I go straight to the bathroom do my business and wash my face. Washing my face in the first few minutes after I wake up, wakes me up and feel more alert. The way I like to think of it, I am cleaning off the sleepiness off my face (which doesn’t necessarily work everyday… unfortunately).

After that is off to the kitchen to make myself some breakfast because if I do not eat, I will probably not make it out the door to school or work. But more importantly I will brew my coffee; coffee is honestly more than something that wakes you up, it feeds the soul and makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, and don’t even get me started on the first sip of coffee… it’s truly heavenly and divine.

Depending on the morning I will either hang out with parents for a bit, go get ready or for those more girl boss morning routines, I will take my coffee and go back to my room. This is my me time, essentially, it’s a part of the morning that lets me recharge, get myself in a good mood and set the day off on the right foot. I will sit down and plan my day or plan the next few days ahead of me if I have not done it recently. But this changes quite often and depends on the busyness of that day. But here are just a few recommendations of what you should do during this time.

  • Meditate
  • Journal
  • Affirmations
  • Exercise/yoga
  • Planning
  • Thinking

Thinking might sound like an odd thing to incorporate into your morning routine, but it’s honestly when all my good ideas come about. It’s the beginning of the day, you are starting with a fresh slate, and the self-doubt and dampens on your mood that can occur throughout the day is nowhere in sight. So, by just sitting in my bed and sipping my coffee and thinking, I can think about how I want the day to go, or a project, a new blog post I want to write. Or even daydreaming about upcoming things in my life that I want to make happen. We usually never give ourselves the time to just be. Just to sit, drink coffee and be there or think about all the good things, or about something that excites us!

After this, which I will for about 5-20 minutes, once again depending on the day, it is off to get ready. I will scramble to put on some makeup, give up on my hair and put an outfit together. But one thing I make sure of is that what I am wearing or how much makeup I am wearing matches what I want to feel like that day. If I feel like wearing no makeup, then so be it. If I want to dress up a bit and wear an outfit I feel confident in, then why not! This part of my morning gives me this edge or sense of empowerment because I am at a point in my life where I choose whether I want to wear makeup or how much of it I want to wear, it does not feel like an obligation. I feel like I am free to wear anything and everything I want, I don’t have to confine to this idea of what I should wear.

After that, I am out of the door, and its time to get on with my day.

Girl bosses you need to create your own routine that has moments for yourself, that are healthy in terms of what you eat and the kind of talks you have with yourself. If you take anything away from this blog post its that small little things can make us feel empowered, and that taking care of yourself in the morning should be a priority.

Thanks for reading, and make sure to keep following The Life We Dream Of for more inspiring and motivational posts!

Sarah

International Women’s Day

Happy International women’s day!!  Today and every day for the rest of our lives, remember all those women who came before us and spoke up so we can have the opportunities that we have today. They have fought with everything they had so we can live the life we live today, but that doesn’t end there.

We need to keep the conversation going, helping women all over the world, empower one another and never tear down other women. Talk about women’s issues, talk about feminism, discuss issues that are important to you! Challenge the status quo, and never be talked down to because you are a female.

A girl boss will always help other women, and they will help them find their voice. Always be proud of being a woman, and never let anyone define your worth or how far you will go in life. Today and every day, stand up for yourself and use your voice.
Spread the girl love, and remember girls you are so beautiful, powerful, strong, resilient, intelligent and amazing. Please never ever forget that.

“Here’s to strong women

May we know them

May we be them

May we raise them”

 

Thanks for reading,

Sarah.

Overcoming Obstacles

Welcome back to another Girl Boss blog post! Today we are going to talk about what happens when things do not go according to the plan. No matter who are you, there will be obstacles in your path that will come up. If you remember in my last blog post, I talked about how we sometimes let ourselves become victims of our situations. But recently I was rereading “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero (go read it immediately if you have not!!) and at one point she was talking about what she calls the Big Snooze, otherwise known as BS. Essentially what this is, is your “false self”, and that it is the part of our subconscious that feeds the fear in us, makes us want to stay in our comfort zones, doubt our awesomeness etc. She goes on to say that we let this get in the way of realizing that we have limitless possibilities, and we can literally do anything we want.

That really hit home with me, recently I have been in a very negative state of mind that has trickled into so many other parts of my life. When I randomly picked up this book from my bookshelf and reached this part I felt like an idiot for forgetting this. I have essentially created this very grim, sad and unhappy reality for myself, so why couldn’t I just get out of it? Our minds have subconsciously taken in ideas or others beliefs that have stopped or encouraged us in our decisions.

Why would I want to stay in this negative state of mind? Because maybe then people would perhaps notice that I felt extremely alone and just wanted someone to reach out. Or maybe because pitying myself seemed easier, or it was the only way I knew how to cope with a situation without facing it. Why did I almost not write this blog post? Not because I didn’t have time, but because what if someone read it and judged the way I thought? Or no one read it and therefore it wouldn’t exist? Those are limiting beliefs. It is only when you catch yourself and analyze why you are stopping yourself from doing something, do you realize you even have them and what they are.

There will be so many roadblocks in your life, and sometimes you will think maybe I shouldn’t continue down this path, or maybe I shouldn’t continue working towards that goal because nothing is working out. A challenge or an obstacle is something to overcome, you should never take it as a stop, turn back around sign from the universe. Because if there is anything I have learned, its that the universe wants you to succeed. Why? Because you are the universe! You are literally a piece of it!

The way I think of it, the world might be against you,

but the universe is always with you.

Fellow girl bosses, when life gives you lemons and you can’t find a knife to cut it open and make lemonade, you find another way to open that lemon. You do NOT leave the lemon on the counter, you FIND A SOLUTION to the problem. Always keep going no matter how many challenges you face, because that is the universe’s way of testing you. If you keep going and do what you want to do, you have passed the test.
Keep going girl bosses, I have so much faith in you. But more importantly, I hope you have complete and utter faith in yourself because you are amazing.

Thanks for reading, and if you like any of my posts do make sure to follow The Life We Dream because there is so much more inspiration and motivation to come!

Have a wonderful day!
Sarah

 

What is a Girl Boss?

Let’s start with some basics shall we, what is a girl boss? It was coined by Sophia Amoruso founder of Nasty Gal and now runs girlboss.com (seriously check it out, this isn’t paid or sponsored I just absolutely love the website) among many other things. To her, a girl boss is someone who takes charge of their own life. The beauty of a girl boss is that is flexible to what you want it to mean. Personally, I see a girl boss who gives it their all in all aspects of life. From relationships to family, to their career, passions, hobbies, etc.

I learned about this whole girl boss concept about a year and a half ago but really got into it after I saw the Girl Boss series on Netflix (it breaks my heart that it got canceled). I admired just have relentless and determined Sophia was in the show, and she obviously is in real life. That’s when I began reading more and more about being a girl boss and I was immediately hooked. I realized that this was me, I was a girl boss, and that everyone else around me was one also. Through this year and a half journey, I have learned a few tips on how to live your best life and being a girl boss, so I thought today I would share a few with you! Here we go! 

Have a morning routine
When you wake up early, which does not mean at 4 am unless that’s how you want to float your boat, but anywhere between 6-8am, your entire life will change for the better. By waking up this early you can get so much done before lunchtime! I have slowly turned into a morning person because I realized that my most productive work hours were between 9-12. I got more accomplished during those hours than from 1-6 in the afternoon. This also allowed me to create a morning routine in which I did all the basics brew coffee, eat breakfast, get ready, etc. But it also gave me time to add in elements that set me off on the right foot in the morning. Even as simple as sitting in my bed while drinking my coffee while reading a book or just sitting there in the silence before the chaos ensues.

Stop negative self-talk
We all do this, there are just days where we are very harsh on ourselves. The key to ending this or at least doing this less is to catch yourself. One time when I did make a negative comment about myself, the thought that came right after was ‘hey why are you so harsh on yourself? you did this and this, you did the best you could’. It takes that one time or countering your negative self-talk with something positive to continue this pattern in your head.

Own your circumstances
We all live very different lives, with extremely different circumstances, but no one’s life is perfect. The key to being a girl boss is realizing that you might have it harder than some other people but that doesn’t mean you can’t do amazing things. You are not a victim of your circumstances, as I am sure you have heard plenty of times. But really you aren’t because everyone out there who is successful had things to deal with and crappy circumstances as well but look at where they are now. They pushed past these circumstances and made whatever they wanted to happen, happen. I understand it is easier said than done but remember you have everything you need within you to go after what you want. Your circumstances now should not be the sole determining factor of your future.

Be truly you
The only way you will be successful, in whatever way you define that word is if you are truly you. In every room or situation, you walk into, be yourself. In everything you create or produce, be 100% genuinely yourself. Things will flourish from there.

Obviously, there is so much more advice and such will come your way throughout the month, but this is just some quick inspiration to get you in the girl boss mood. Remember, you are all girl bosses!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!
Sarah

The Silver Lining

As we all know, life is life. It can be brutal, messy and knock the wind out of you more times than you think it can. This recently happened to me and figuring out how to recover or move on from it has been one of the hardest challenges I have ever had to face.

Its been a week since the situation happened, and only now am I slowly starting to return to my normal self. Except things have changed, too many things really… My relationships with people have changed, the lens I view life through has become a shade darker, and I feel completely alone.

But out of every single bad situation, there is a tiny glimmer of a silver lining. This silver lining happened to teach me one of the most important life lessons I needed to know. It taught me that at the end of the day, I can only truly depend on myself. My relationship with myself, and the confidence that I have, and how I trust myself is the most important thing I will ever have. Because when you feel completely alone with no one to turn to, the only person left is you. Being able to depend on myself is what ultimately got me through, and still is getting me through, this situation.

Everything I will do in the future will be for me, and that I will work and earn everything I want, and no one else will be involved in this. Some of you might think wow she’s turning into a selfish person, and maybe I am. But depending on myself, and being able to trust my intuition and decisions, and love myself is never a bad thing. I simply want to work and focus more of my attention on building a relationship that is stable and will last, with myself.

Silver linings are often hard to swallow because they tend to come out of situations you did not want to happen. But they are in a way the universes way of teaching you an important life lesson.

When shit hits the fan, the only person left to pick up the pieces is you! You are your own best friend, and knowing that fact will bring you comfort, strength, and stability. Being there for yourself is one of the powerful things you can ever do, it takes a lot of strength and bravery.

Be there for yourself.
You need you.

Thanks for reading,
Sarah

You Are Interesting

I used to think something was wrong with me because I didn’t have any hobby’s. I mean sure as a kid I did swimming, dance, piano, soccer, but none of them ever stuck. I was very much the kid that did something for a year and got bored of it.

But there were a few things that stuck and are still around today, like reading and writing. Ever since I picked up a harry potter book I have become addicted to reading and absolutely love it. Getting lost in a world completely apart from my own and going on this journey with the characters makes my heart feel full and content. I love to create and fantasize scenarios in my head and the only logical way I could think to do that was through writing. These are things that I’ve been doing since I could remember. But still, when I say these are my hobbies I get a funny look.

This entire rant has stemmed from a conversation I was having with some people a while ago in which they were all discussing a sport they loved or a passion/hobby they still do today. I didn’t enter the conversation and instead just listened in. Was something wrong with me? If I didn’t have a hobby that defined some part of my life, then who was I? Was there anything interesting to me? This was obviously caused by overthinking, but the answer to my questions are rather simple. Nothing is wrong with me, a hobby doesn’t define you, and yes you still are interesting.

For a long time, I avoided becoming close to people because I thought if they find out how boring I am and that there isn’t anything to me then they won’t want to be my friend. I look at that logic now and I’m almost laughing at how childish it sounded, but at the same time is explained a lot about why I didn’t have many friends or become close to many of them.

The truth is, there is so much to me, and there is so much to you also. We think that because we don’t have a long list of hobby’s or passions then we can’t be interesting. We all have passions and interests and are so much deeper than anyone can imagine. It took me realizing that reading and writing, and this blog are part of who I am. The problem was, I was embarrassed by this because it wasn’t conventional. You should never be ashamed or embarrassed by what you love and what defines you. Don’t let other’s conventions dictate your worth, or what you think about yourself. You have so much awesomeness and are so much more than meets the eye. You are special, unique and interesting. If someone can’t see that in you then they are not worth your time.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

A Much Needed dose of motivation

Do you realize how lucky you are to wake up every morning? Do you understand that you are still here for a reason? Do you know that you only have one life to live and that’s it?

You might not be at a great point in your life, and I get it if there’s one thing that unites every person on this planet it’s that life slaps us all in the face. But what differentiates you from others is how you react to this slap in the face.

If your life sucks right now, then change it! You have the power in you to change your day, week, year and even life! If you want to start something or achieve a goal now is the time. Don’t just let it sit in the back of your mind, act on it now. Life doesn’t wait for anybody, but it will help you when you have a plan of action and follow it. As they say, action breathes motivation, and the universe rewards those who act.

There will be challenges, and obstacles and a lot of self-doubts, but just remember that you were put on this planet for some reason, and only you are the only person that can fulfill it.

Your life is waiting for it to be lived. It’s not when you get to a specific point of your life, or when you have something that you can start living. That’s not living, that’s chasing the idea of living your life. News flash, you will never get to live your life if you go down that path. You think you have so many years ahead of you, but no one knows that for sure. We use it as an excuse to not face our deepest fears and our insecurities, but there will be a point when you need to face those fears head-on. These fears are holding you down, but you are meant to do so many great things. One of my favorite quotes that I go back to whenever I notice that my fears are holding me back is “Give yourself permission to live a big life. Step into who you are meant to be. Stop playing small. You’re meant for greater things.”

All of you are meant for greater things. Do you want that? You do. I know you do. You have so much to accomplish, and so many lives to change including yours. You can do it. You have the power to do whatever the hell you want to do. I have faith in you, and so does the universe.

I hope this gives you a little bit of motivation, and I truly believe that we all have the power within us to change our lives for the better.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Journaling

If you have never tried journaling, then you are missing out. The reason as to why people start or even continue journaling differs from person to person. I used to journal a lot when I was a kid, but it was mainly summaries of what I had done that day, which has proven to be interesting and cute to look back on now. But when I really started to pick up journaling, it was a more dark and sad period of my life. It was a way to take all the jumbled mess and let it explode onto paper, it was therapeutic really.

I did stop for awhile after that as things started to shift but picked it up again. It then became more about thinking through decisions or trying to understand how I felt the way I was feeling about certain situations. I had progressed and grew up and my journal entries were reflecting that.

Journaling is what you want it to be. Some people write endless pages, others make lists of what they’re grateful for, some use it for manifestation. There are an endless amount of things that you could do with journaling.

That’s all nice an easy, but how do you make it a habit? How do you enjoy journaling? As for many things, this is when you need to establish your “Why”. Why are you journaling? It is because you need to take a load off your shoulders? Find some calm and peace? etc. The reason why I began journaling has changed, but now I find it a nice way to write out my ideas, or my thoughts on life. I’m also a person who loves working on bettering myself and seeing how much I have changed over time, so I use past entries to see just how far I’ve come. And to continue doing that in the future I need to write down what’s happening in my life now.

Grab yourself a new notebook, or one you already have and make it a point to just write one page (or more if you wish) and start with something easy. Write about how you are feeling right then and there, or something that happened today good or bad. Write something down, don’t think about it at all. Journaling comes from within, so just write from your heart and soul. Just write.

I hope you really do start getting into journaling, it has become something I look forward to doing every night before bed. Try it out!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Re-Evaluating Your Goals

We have finally reached the end of January! I will say, this month did feel a little long and dragged on for a quite awhile, but still, it was a great month. Today I thought to wrap up the whole new year inspired blog posts, that it would be nice to end with a chance to re-evaluate your goals.

Pull out the goals you made at the beginning of the month and really analyze them.

  • Are these the goals you want to pursue for the rest of the year?
  • Is there any new goals to add, or any you want to take out?
  • How are you going to continue working towards your goals in the coming months?

Most of the time we forget that we even made a list of goals. This is your chance to go back to them and see if this is what you truly want.

Do not be afraid, or ashamed if you want to take out a goal, or change them up a bit, or even add new ones! Life has passed by this month and I am sure a lot has changed; your goals need to keep up to date with you and your changing mind. This isn’t the time for self-doubt to creep in and make you get rid of all your goals. This is simply a time to see if you’re in the right the direction, or if you are going the complete opposite direction.

I had to go over my goals recently and realized that they were not entirely what I wanted. Actually, they seem like the type of goals that are not substantive and that you made at the beginning of the year for the sake of it. There are of course some that I really do want to pursue, but there were even some I had made very short term, like my blog. One of my goals was to get my blog back on track, and now it is. But what next? I can’t just stop there, I did not think far enough into what I wanted to happen to my blog. By looking back at my list of goals I was able to adjust things, and maybe see that what I thought I wanted, I didn’t want anymore. And that’s completely okay, changing your mind happens all the time. Keeping that in mind, your goals can’t change every week (obviously, your weekly goals can), because you would have no sense of direction or focus.

When the new year rolls around it’s all about self-reflection, but truly it needs to happen all the time, and at the end of the  ‘new year, new me’ phase, we need to check and see what progress was or wasn’t made. This month I set a few monthly goals, and honestly, I did not accomplish most of them. But why didn’t I? What happened? Are they worth accomplishing in the next month? Do they matter that much to me? How can I try this again?

The end of January, as well as the beginning of January, should be about self-reflection and re-evaluate what you want. This is your life after all, and you need to be making sure it’s the life you want to live.

 

I just wanted to take a few moments to say thank you to all of you that have followed The Life We Dream Of, and who have commented and liked my posts. It truly means the world to me, and I hope you keep coming back! I really want to create a space for advice, happiness, sharing, and community, and that is already starting, thanks to all of you. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart, I appreciate and am grateful for you all!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

How to Keep Going Throughout the Year

At the beginning of the year, we feel this sense of rush, joy, renewal, and ambition. But eventually that will fade as the year goes on, and you might find yourself stuck, bored or drained… perhaps all 3 if you are anything like me. Today I wanted to talk about habits and things we need to start now and carry them on for the rest of the year, to make sure we do not fall into the dreaded slump. Now, these are not full proof and might not work for everyone, but they do work for me.

  1. Self Care

This is so important, and the first thing I want to address. We get caught up in the idea of helping others, and pleasing everyone around us, but ourselves. The way I see it and explain it is that you have x amount of energy, and often we give 100% of it away, and we are left with nothing. Which can explain why a lot of people feel drained and tired. I did this for the longest of time, and some might call me selfish, but when it started affecting my day to day life, even my parents were noticing changes in me that were not for the better. Self-care means reserving some of that energy for yourself. You can practice self- care in so many ways, from reading a book to yoga and meditation to taking yourself out for coffee and just people watching, journaling, being creative etc. Self-care is very personal and should be tailored to your specific needs. For example, I know many people that to feel reenergized they need to be near people. On the other hand, where I am, I need to be alone to recharge. I just mentioned a few ideas but do look around the internet and books for so many unique ways that might suit you and your needs.

  1. Reward yourself

Have you noticed that if you look at your calendar and you have nothing to look forward to, life looks a little dull and boring? Because its true the same thing over and over gets boring, it doesn’t have to be that way! Make plans with people, spend time with friends and family; I don’t care how busy you are, nothing is more important than spending time with the people you love. Plan a night out, a spa day, a vacation even. When we set or create rewards for ourselves, it gives us an incentive to be productive and work towards something.

  1. Re-evaluate your goals

At least on a weekly basis, I need to go back to my goals, because they become so secondary in our minds, while the more immediate things become important. But your goals are also important, and you need to put them at the front of your brain. When looking at them, think about if they align with what you still want. Do they still make sense? Is there anything you want to add or take out? Are there any new goals that you want to accomplish? I always say that everything around us and ourselves is constantly changing. Your goals need to keep up with you and what you want from life.

 

These are obviously just 3 tips, but I do recommend you refer to them in the coming months of 2018! Comment down below if you have any other suggestions that you think can help people avoid that stuck, drained feeling we often all feel.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

5 More Tips for Being Productive

The minute I stepped into college, the idea of productivity and constantly being busy was cemented into my brain. Like many other students, I got caught up in the idea that If I was not always somewhere or doing something, then I was being lazy and wasting my time. But before you knew it, I was losing it. Everything from relationships, to my mental and physical health, and my overall sanity had been thrown out the window, and I felt utterly shattered, weak and exhausted.

The idea of constantly being busy and being productive has a lot of negative consequences like I mentioned above and varies with everyone’s own personal experience. So today when I talk about being productive, I truly want you all to keep in mind that you need to take time for yourself and your loved one. Life is not meant to always go, go, go! Slow down, because what happens when you don’t is that you often go through a burnout. I completely agree with the notion of being productive but sacrificing your wellbeing to accomplish everything on your to-do list is not worth it. Please be mindful and aware of your habits and take care of yourself. Your career or school should never be prioritized above your mental or physical health.

But there are days when you need to get things done. Here are 5 tips I truly use to keep myself motivated and productive, but I also remember that not every day will be super productive and that it is okay to slow down.

  1. Set Goals

Set daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. These might look a little daunting which is why you have to break them down and set deadlines with rewards attached to them. But if you want more info, check out my goal setting blog post I recently put up!

  1. Break down goals into smaller tasks

As mentioned before, breaking down a large task or goal into small and easier steps makes a difference. For example, you have an essay to write, if you just keep writing down write do the essay, it will seem like a giant and daunting task which you will most likely procrastinate it. If you break into down into steps such as research, rough draft, edit, proofread, cite etc.  you are making the task much more manageable and less scary.

  1. Prioritize Well

If you sit down and look at your to-do list which is probably equal to the length of your arm at this point, chances are you will want to run away from it and not do anything. But on certain days there are just things that absolutely need to get down. What I recommend is prioritizing your top 3 or 5 items on your to-do list. Not to say you ignore the rest, but by setting them as a priority you can get them out of the way first. Usually, these are the bigger, longer or more lengthy tasks we have, and by doing them right away you will feel like you’ve had a more accomplished day.

  1. A fresh mindset

Every day is a new chance, and a new opportunity, even every minute is a new opportunity. What you need to understand is that what happened yesterday should not affect how you are today. And same goes for what is going to happen tomorrow, it should not affect how you are today. What happened this morning, does not need to affect the rest of your day. You need to make a conscious choice and effort to make sure that the bad things stay in the past, and the daunting things are not dealt with until the time comes. By going into the day with the thought that it’s a new day, a new chance, a new opportunity, you take away the self-doubt and emotions that go into procrastinating or being lazy.

  1. Make use of online sites

I have a slight obsession with planning, to the point where it calms me down. I love using a paper agenda, and writing out my to-do lists, but sometimes when I am at school or on the go, I rather just look at my phone or laptop to see what I must do. I put all my due dates or events into my google calendar, which then sinks with my laptop calendar and my phone calendar, so no matter where I am I can check when an essay or assignment is due. For online to-do lists and such, I use a website called Trello (not sponsored), and it essentially allows me to lay out everything I need to do. I keep track of my daily goals, weekly goals, and my 2018 goals. It’s just a nice electronic way of keeping up with whatever you would have otherwise written down.

Those are the 5 tips I have for you today, remember that these work for me and might not work for everyone, but do give them a shot and let me know what you think!

I would also like to thank everyone who has been commenting lately, the feedback means so much to me and helps me a lot!! Thank you!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

 

Goal Setting

Goals. Do we even know what a goal is? How do we get there and what does it take?
Today we’re going to look at the foundations or basics if you will, of a goal, and then how to structure your path to achieving this goal.

But before anything, you need to have at least a vague idea of the goal you want to reach or accomplish. Say your goal is to do well in school or open your own business, those are very vague ideas, but they are a good starting point. Now those ideas are broad so you will need to break them down and make them much more specific. When being specific you can start to visualize the end goal, and it is no longer just a floating idea in your brain.

Once you have that you need to establish your Why. For the longest of time I did not do this, and I constantly wondered why I lost motivation or momentum. For example, my goal this month was to upload every Tuesday and Thursday, which I have slightly been keeping up with. But okay great I have that idea, but then I had to specify it and say it was going to be centered around advice, and starting off the new year on the right foot.

But when I established the reason as to why I wanted to write and post these types of posts, it came down to the fact that I wanted to at least help one person, or inspire them to fulfill what they have the potential to do. I wanted to help someone achieve their goals. So now every time I don’t feel like writing or publishing, I go back to my Why. I upload so maybe it will get one person thinking or help them, and quite honestly sometimes it helps me become inspired or motivated as well. The Why reminds you why you are working towards your goal, and keeps you in line.

Another measure that I do to keep myself in check is to think about what will stop me from continuing this goal. Often its laziness, self-doubt, or lack of time, with many other things that depend on the situation. Now think of what you can do to prevent that, or stop those negative feelings when they’re just starting. For example, when I run into self-doubt which happens much more often then I like, I remind myself that I am writing this to help someone, and even if it doesn’t get out to anyone, I am writing it for myself. Essentially you need to anticipate the roadblocks and find solutions to them right away. Trust me it will save you time and energy and will keep you on the path towards your goal.
Now let’s talk about your actual goal. You have the end of it, but the journey to the goal is going to be a lot of work. To make this less stressful and manageable, you need to write a plan of action. In it, there should contain the broken down steps and even smaller steps within them, that you will need to accomplish to bring you one step forward to accomplishing your goal. And what will keep you in check in this part, is by setting deadlines. You should have your deadline for the main goal, but also make deadlines (that are realistic) for your smaller steps. This will make sure you don’t abandon your goal or spend too much time not working on it.

And the last component to goal setting is actually doing the work to achieve your goal. I am telling you now, that everything you want is closer than you think, and that the sacrifices you will make will be worth it. But this will only be worth it if this is what you truly want. Also remember that if you get to a point where this goal does not align with what you want, you are allowed to change it. Make sure it is something you truly want and are passionate about, and you would give your blood, sweat, and tears for. If it is, then go out there and kill it. I believe in you, and you need to believe in yourself.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

The Chaos that is My Life

I had a whole plan for what I was going to post today, but as I started writing it I just couldn’t. I am such an emotional and mental mess; my life is and will be, for the next semester, constant non-stop rollercoaster ride. Am I ready for that? Not even close.

I really don’t like diving into situations when there is no end in the near future. From today until who knows when, I have so much to do and so many commitments to follow through, that the only thing I could think of is how am I going to make it through this? But the real question I think about is, are you going to let time slip away again?

What I mean by this is that I am known for not living in the moment, it has been a horrible habit I’ve had since I was a kid. Always trying to predict and plan for what will happen, and completely missing out on what’s happening right now. So, when I go into these non-stop periods of my life, which happens often, I wonder what will I miss.

Instead of taking a moment to be present, my mind can’t help but jump forward. I truly hate that, I hate that life is throwing me opportunities all kinds and I don’t even notice them because I’m too busy focusing on this potential future that I’ll maybe one day get.

The next few days is just one of the first waves of chaos I will experience in the next semester… so if anyone has any tips on how to get through this please share them, because I am running out of ideas.

I’m sorry I really wanted to post something on goals and such, which I still will do but I didn’t have it in me. I hope that your day is going well, and remember this crazy, confusing, messy life is something we should cherish every day, even on the bad days…

Thanks for reading!

How I Plan my Semester

A new semester or term has started for a lot of students, who have still not gotten over the mental and emotional drainage that was last semester. But regardless we need to restart, push forward and do our best! So here are just a few things I do at the beginning of the semester to make sure I start off on the right foot.

The moment you receive the course syllabus, go through it thoroughly. Read it back to front and every word, as many professors will remind you this is a contract between you and professor, minus the lawyers. But still, if you have any issue throughout the semester this syllabus/contract will be referred to you. Also at the same time look at important dates that you will have assignments or essays due, and the date of your test and exams. This is going to help you know what is coming up and what you are in for.

Then look at if there are required books or textbooks for the class. Before running to your school bookstore, in which the prices of the books will surely give you a heart attack, check online. See if you can find an e-book version or a Kindle version. Sometimes even if you go to Amazon you can find it a few dollars cheaper than if you bought it from your school. Or go the classic route of buying used textbooks, trust me you save a lot of money.

And my last tip is that you can’t procrastinate at the beginning of the semester. Chances are, you will procrastinate all the reading that you should be doing. If you don’t think you don’t have any, please go back and look at that course outline. The thing about university or college is that there is always something to do, and if you are not doing something, then you are procrastinating it. But eventually, you reach a time when there is too much to do and absolutely no time. Don’t you wish you could not go through that anxiety and stress? Well then start being proactive and doing your work from the beginning. I’m not saying it will take away the stress and anxiety but I can assure you it will help.

So, to sum up, read through the syllabus, plan everything out, look for the books at a cheaper price and don’t procrastinate.
Best of luck in the new semester!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

How I Plan My Year

We are now well into 2018, and for some, they have already lost that ‘new year new me’ spirit or are using that fuel to their potential, while others are still trying to get it together. But no matter which direction you are coming from, and regardless of the date on a calendar, you can always plan your year and start off with a clean slate.

Today, I want to take you through a few steps that will help you create a guideline for your year or even a rough idea of what is to come. But before anything starts you absolutely need some form of an agenda! I cannot stress this enough, but agendas will save your life, and take away the everyday stress we get from being disorganized. I am a little extra and use both google calendar that syncs with my phone, and a paper agenda… overboard I know. But having something to write down and plan in, is crucial. It’s a way to get all the jumble that’s in your head out into the world, as well as allow you to tease out the main ideas that were floating around in your head.

Now that you have your agenda of choice, fill in all the important dates you have in the year to come. Whether that be longstanding appointments, birthdays, events etc. At this time, I also like to put reminders on my agenda throughout different times of the year to remind me to make future appointments. For example, my hair will need a trim by may, so in April I will write down a little reminder to book that appointment. Or, if you need to change the oil of your car, write a reminder a few weeks before you want to have it done that you need to book the appointment. This is simply being proactive and planning in advance.

Now, look at your goals for the year. By this point, I hope you have a few, but new ones will and should come up throughout the course of the year, and in that case, just add them in. But the ones you have now need to be broken down into steps. These can vary, but with each step create a deadline, aside from the big deadline you have for reaching your goal. Write them down on your agenda; at the same time come up with a reward that you will give yourself once you accomplish these steps and the goal. For a long time, I just set goals and no rewards and quickly lost the motivation to follow through with it. By setting deadlines and rewards you are motivating and encouraging yourself to get working.

From goals, let’s hop into resolutions for a few short moments. Goals are concrete and once they are complete, that’s the end of them, you come up with new ones. The thing with resolutions is that these require a lot of work, and don’t have an end goal that you will immediately see. But let’s say that you want to read more, well then plan it out. Plan what books to buy, when, how many, how much will it cost etc. this will help you achieve the resolution of say, reading 2 books every month. Resolutions can easily be incorporated into our daily schedule, and getting it to become a habit takes commitment and planning.

A subsection of these goals can be financial goals. Maybe there is a trip you want to take by a certain time, maybe you need to save up for school, or maybe you just want to save money. What you can do is see how much of your income per month you will need to save, to save a target goal at the end of the year. Say you want to save $1200 by the end of the year, and after you look at your monthly income, you realize that you can do that if you put aside $100 a month. Write this down, write down your saving budget, your spending budget, and how much you are saving along the way.

I hope these few tips inspire you to get cracking on planning the new year.

Dream big and Plan big.

Have a wonderful day!

The Spirit of Christmas

Ever since I was young, Christmas has always had religious aspects, and growing up with those ideas reminds me why we celebrate Christmas every year. But today I wanted to talk about the side of Christmas that is a consequence of gathering for this religious holiday. This is an excuse to set aside time and be with the ones you love. Stores close, and society, in general, slows down, because we all know that this one day of the year is meant to be with family and friends.

Yes, there are toys and presents, and consumerism tied to Christmas, but I find that to be a harsh and skeptical view. When I buy gifts for someone, there has been a lot of effort and thought that goes into it. It does at the end of the day show you care, and how you perceive this person and what they mean to you. This doesn’t mean that the gift must be multiple things, or expensive, but really it is all about the thought.

Or when we cook Christmas dinner, and we make sure to have certain dishes on the table because they are a tradition. The dishes on the table represent the traditions we have had for years, the food we eat and the way its prepared represents our culture, the thoughts behind the gifts show that we care. Being together shows us that family is the most important thing at the end of the day, either the blood family or the ones you choose to have in your life.

Christmas is also a time for giving, and showing people that they are not alone, and that people will help them. It’s about realizing that you have a lot more than other people and that you are lucky and privileged to have what you have. And those who do not have as much, deserve to have exactly what you have. So, we give and lift their spirits.

But most importantly Christmas is a time of hope. A time where society comes together and realizes that they can do better, that helping is needed and is a good thing. The Spirit of Christmas is different for everyone, to me, it means traditions, family, culture, fun, thoughtfulness, giving and hope.

What does the Christmas spirit mean to you?

 

Favorite Christmas Movies

To start off 12 days of blogging, I thought it would be nice to share some of my favorite movies. I am sure you have seen many of these, but if you haven’t, I suggest you grab yourself some friends and family, with a steaming cup of hot chocolate and watch a few Christmas movies throughout the month!

Without further ado, here is my favorite Christmas movie!

  • Elf
  • Christmas with the Kranks
  • Eloise at the Plaza at Christmas Time
  • How the Grinch Stole Christmas
  • National Lampoons Christmas vacation
  • Love Actually
  • The Holiday
  • Santa Claus (1,2,3)
  • Miracle on 34th Street
  • A Charlie Brown Christmas

Leave a comment down below if you have seen any of this, and a few of your Christmas movies as well!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Take Care of Yourself

There will reach a point where everything will far apart.

You will probably be neglecting your family and friends, your mental and physical health, essentially your sanity. The universe has probably been warning you that you are headed down this path not-so-great, yet you have been dodging the signs left, right and center.

It’s only when we are physically not in shape, that we can see what is going wrong with our lives. As a student in university, this time of year is crunch time. So, when I became sick a few days ago, I wanted to cry, because I knew that I needed to be on top of my game, and give a 100% to everything, but I couldn’t anymore, physically or mentally.  My body was weak, my head kept pounding, and my nose was a water fountain, and to top it all off I lost my voice.

It was at this point that I realized just how stressed out I was and had been for the past few weeks. I noticed how I had not stopped, either between work, school, and homework, since the end of summer. There wasn’t a day without a long to-do list, or somewhere to be, or homework to do. For those few weeks, all I did was go through the motions and just kept pushing myself, which apparently took a toll.

So yesterday after much negotiation with myself, I did absolutely nothing. I sat in bed or on my couch all day and watched movies. I forgot how good it felt to do nothing, and just shut off my brain.

We are constantly on the go, and when we are not, we find ways to fill up our time. But that takes on you, mentally and physically. If I did not get sick this week, then I know that I would’ve gotten sicker later, and it would have been worse.

Getting sick even though it isn’t the greatest, was a wake-up call to how I’ve been taking care of myself. And how if I don’t slow down or stop every once in awhile, there won’t be much of me left.

So please, take a break. I know its hard to find the time, but eventually, your body will force you to. Don’t exhaust your body or your brain, take care of them. Take care of yourself.

Have a wonderful day!

Small gestures

Small meaningful gestures can make a person’s day…

Sometimes it can be a hug, or a smile, or even a little pep-talk. Sometimes buying them their favourite hand soap, fuzzy socks, or a book they’ve really wanted, can change turn around a bad and crappy day, into a not-so-crappy and bad day.

We don’t always have to do things in grand gestures and make it known to the entire world. Sometimes its more meaningful and special if that special gift or moment is kept quiet and between you and the other person.

Just something I think we should all think about once in awhile… and since the holiday season is approaching, it was just something we need to keep in mind. Not only in this time of year, but every day of the year.

Have a wonderful day!

The Flip of a Switch

We all need those moments to escape from our lives, or even from ourselves… today I needed that badly. Over the last few weeks, I have been anything but myself. I have been lazy, unmotivated, and not bothering with anything. That’s not who I am, or who I want to become; I am usually motivated, driven, and want to do everything and anything. Maybe you are feeling this way also like you are just not yourself lately, it’s weird and different because on the outside you are the same as always. But on the inside, where only you know what’s going on, it seems like an upside mess.

That’s how I have been feeling lately, which is very unusual and probably unlike you too. We both have 2 options, or 2 paths to take let’s say. We can continue experiencing this horrible and weird feeling, or we can sit down and have a talk with ourselves. Many people don’t like being alone with their thoughts, and I understand because sometimes they don’t take the best shape or form, but when we’ve hit this point where our whole lives are being affected, we need too.

I need you to sit down and just be with yourself. Try to pinpoint what situations or events led you to this state of not being you. Recall how or who you were before this weird phase, and think if you want to go back to the person you were, or if you want to start fresh, both are an equally good option. These thoughts that come from sitting down with yourself don’t happen in one minute or even one day. Rather, it’s an accumulation of all the little moments of reflection you have had. Whether it’s that small journal entry where you noticed something was off about you. Or during that walk or metro ride home, where you were just by yourself and listening to music. Or those random moments during the day where you space out and think “What is going on with me?”

Those little moments over time, come together and will lead you to feel this shift. It’s not dramatic or filled with just the right background music and beautiful scenery like in a movie, but it’s like a flip of a switch. Its quiet, fast and you don’t even notice it. You go back to your old self without even really noticing it, and trust me you will be so happy and relieved.

Somehow over time that drive will return, you’ll want to do things, and go places, and get shit done. However, all of that takes time, and you absolutely need to work at it. Yes, it will be hard, uncomfortable, and weird, but when that flip of a switch happens you’ll be glad you went through all that.

Remember, this weird phase you are in is not who you are, its how you get out of it and return or create your true self, that makes you who you are.

Thanks for reading! Have a lovely day!