When its Time to Change the Way You Think

When an opportunity presents itself, do you just go for it? Are you the type of person who will jump on it the first chance they get? Or let it brew in your head for a bit? Or wait too long and the next thing you know the opportunity is gone?

I tend to be a mixture of these reactions, mostly because my mind decides that playing devils advocate with every situation is perfectly fine. So when I can be really excited about a new opportunity, my mind will still jump to the other side. What if I don’t get? What would all this work be for? Isn’t it pointless at the end of the day? Even though there is a part of my head saying, “TAKE IT”.

Every day we make decisions, and our brain goes through the same pros and cons motions. For a long time, I let the cons side win, and thought it was normal not to take opportunities that were literally being presented to me. Because my brain believed it was safe, it was familiar, and it meant that nothing would change. And obviously, that seemed like the better option. Rather than the pros side being seen as something positive, I saw it as negative. What I’ve been learning is that this type of thinking isn’t just for opportunities, its reflected in every tiny decision we make—subconsciously and consciously.

But when does it all get too much? You see my brain was in this permanent thought process of negativity and assuming that all things were going to fail. The only way I started getting out of this thought process was when I had just had enough. I had reached a point where I was at my limit, and my own negativity was starting to get to me.

I had to learn how to reverse this damaging thought process I had cemented in my brain and learn how to side more with an optimistic and positive view of my decisions. As I say all the time when I tell you guys how I am in the process of changing things in my life, this did not happen overnight. It is still a constant ongoing project that never stops.

Every time an important decision or an opportunity that can change everything comes my way, I have to constantly battle with myself. I need to choose been taking a risk and comfort. I am in no way a risk taker; I don’t live life off the edge.

But on those times when the universe presents you with something that fills you to the brim with passion, joy, and ambition, I hope you realize that you need to take that risk. And if it fails, then it fails! I know that’s rather simplistic thinking, but sometimes we can afford to think like that. If you fail, then you embrace your failure and learn from it. Then get right back up and see what other opportunities there for you are.

But having that mentality or getting to that mentality means you have to change the way you think. You have to consciously make an effort In every decision to make the pros voice in your head, louder and have a better reasoning. You are the only person who can do that. And I encourage you all to try it if you feel like you have reached a point where you have just had enough with yourself and the negative thought process you’ve relied on for far too long.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Family

If my family has taught me one thing, its unconditional love. The type of love that just pours out of your heart because you just love the person so much. I was watching Set It Up, the new rom-com on Netflix (definitely recommend) and at one point they say “I like because… I love despite”. This got me thinking, no matter how insane or crazy my family is, I love them. Despite the fact that they drive me absolutely insane, and sometimes make me want to move halfway across the world, I still love them to bits.

We are a dysfunctional mess who will use any excuse to get together and eat. We are loud, we yell, we eat too much, we cook enough food for an army, we dance and sing, we laugh and cry, we literally are our own community.

But when things get tough, I know they will still be there. Because being born into this family comes with this attachment, that no matter what you do we will always be there to love you, support you and feed you.

My family is divided into many generations, with mixed backgrounds, with so many different characters and personalities and yes that clashes a lot. But at the end of the day, we are family.

Need to hide a dead body? We got you. (I’m kidding!!)

Need to feed 40 people in three hours? We got you.

Need a random excuse to get out of the house? Well just stop on over because someone is bound to be home and will serve you coffee within 5 seconds of you being in the house.

My family is loud, crazy, energetic, dysfunctional, loving, supportive, compassionate and amazing. Its times like these I realize just how lucky and privileged I am to have people in my life that will always be there at the end of the day.

I understand that not everyone has this type of family, but sometimes the family that means the most to us can be friends, colleagues or distant relatives. Family is family.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

The Habit Tracker

As of today, I have been using a habit tracker for one month. Now I didn’t come up with this idea, and I am not entirely sure who the original person is but I did come across it on YouTube while watching Kalyn Nicholson’s video, and in her bullet journal she created a habit tracker. Now I’m not into the whole bullet journal, mostly because I need structure and having a blank canvas scares me, but my lack of artistic skills doesn’t help either.

A habit tracker is essentially a visual space where you can track your progress with certain habits that you wanted to work on. For example, I wanted to work on journaling more and writing down 3 things that I’m grateful for. At the end of the day or the next day, I would fill in the box if I completed the habit for that day.

It’s super easy to set up. All you need is some colorful pens, ruler, paper or notebook and a list of habits you want to start or old ones you want to keep track of!

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I find that this visual chart keeps me much more accountable than if I just wrote it down as a habit that I wanted to pick up.

As you can see, I don’t always achieve the habit that day. In the beginning, I used to see not filling in a habit as bad and bring myself down about the fact that I hadn’t done that habit. The thing you need to remember is that these are habits you want to pick up, but if you don’t do them that day, then that’s okay also.

The habit tracker is mainly a way to help you start new habits and keep yourself accountable, not chain you to them and make you feel bad if you don’t complete them. That being said, do try to achieve as many as you can.  At the end of the day, this habit tracker is to help you.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Sunday Nights

It is currently 8pm on a Sunday night, and I have not stopped this entire weekend between work, events, chores and just life in general. I got home from my shift at work and realized just how disastrous my brain felt and how all over the place I was. This is definitely not a good way to start off the week, so I’m going to run you over a few things I like to do to prepare for the week ahead.

  1. Pamper yourself

Whether that be with a facemask, bubble bath, personal hygiene or even having some ice cream, take some time out of your night to pamper yourself. Sometimes even just keep up with personal hygiene can be pampering ourselves because we don’t have enough time to do it during the week.

2. Plan your week out

Instead of heading into the week completely blind, take a look at whats coming up. You can also meal plan, organize your time, plan out workouts, weekly or daily budgets etc. Just take a few minutes to plan your week and trust me you will feel less overwhelmed and stressed.

3. Think of outfits to wear

We all have those times where our alarm goes off and we snooze it too many times so we end up running late in the mornings. But we can fix that! Other than training yourself not to snooze, you can preplan outfits. Just go through your closet, and really look at all your clothes and see what outfits you can have. I make sure to always have that one comfy outfit, a dressy one and an in-between always in the back of my head. It makes mornings during the week so much simpler.

4. Set your intentions

How do you want this week to do? What goals do you want to get done? Why do you want them to get done? How do you want to spend your time and energy this week? Think about what this week can hold and all the amazing things you can do.

Lastly, take a few moments to think about the endless possibilities that this week has, and the adventure and craziness it can bring.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful week!

Sarah

5 Tips to Enjoy your Summer

Today I focused on spending time with the people I love so I do not have the most well thought out blog post for you all. But I thought it would be fun to create my own version of a top 5 tips (fill in the blank) list that we see all over Pinterest and internet. I decided to make mine, so here are my top 5 tips for enjoying your summer!

  • Get outside

In this part of Canada, we enjoy all 4 seasons throughout the year (or in a day). But summer is when everything is really green and lush and being outside is bearable. Until we reach 30 degrees Celsius and everyone starts freaking out because its way too hot. But still, go outside and enjoy nature and all that it has to offer.

  • Be proactive in planning things

If you wait until other people plan things, then nothing is going to happen. You need to step it up, reach out to people and make the plans yourself.

  • Wake up early

Summer mornings are like no other. The birds are chirping, the air is warm and fresh, and humidity won’t be settling in for a few more hours. It’s the perfect time to just let your mind wander or be still, to stop and be in the moment or to get outside and be active.

  • Make an ideas list, but not a bucket list

Now I know that sounds odd but from personal experience its what works best. During the summer, if I had planned out a huge list of things I wanted to do, I often found that a few weeks into summer I couldn’t accomplish them. That feeling was magnified as the end of summer approached and I felt like I had done nothing. Instead, I created an ideas list, which is kind of like a bucket list but different. It’s different because my commitment level to the things I wanted to do was not there. It was just an idea I had, and if it got done then yay! But if not, I wouldn’t feel miserable or like I had wasted away my summer. Simply, it was creating a list of things I wanted to do but removing the expectation that I had to accomplish everything on it.

  • Do things you don’t normally do

When we are working or in school, we often put things that make us happy on the backburner, because we have more pressing things to do. But the summer is that one time of year you can catch up on all those books you have in the to-be-read pile. It’s the time when you can learn a new sport, or pick up an instrument you haven’t practiced in months. Use the summer months as a time to do all things you are passionate about but have been pushing off all year.

So those are some easy and quick tips about 5 things you should take into account this summer.

If you have any tips on how to enjoy your summer then please feel free to leave them down below!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Screw It!

Today I went to a girl’s empowerment summit, the first of its kind in my city. I genuinely had no idea what to expect, and only bought the ticket last night at 9pm.

I had known about the event for a month, but I couldn’t actually bring myself to buy the ticket and go to the event. I asked a few people if they wanted to come with me, but none of them could, so I had to do something I would never have dreamed of doing—I had to go to the event alone!

When I got there I was a little anxious, but I honestly thought I would be more anxious than I was. I made eye contact with a girl who was sitting alone, and I was about to sit at another table alone, but something in my brain was like “screw it, go sit with the girl!”

I did just that and did the same thing at lunch. I got to meet so many amazing girls, and have genuine, intellectual and interesting conversations.

All this to say that when that little voice in the back of your head says screw it, then you screw it and just go for it. You won’t realize just how powerful overcoming the anxious or negative thoughts in your head can be, but trust me, pushing through your anxiety so worth it. I’m not saying it can be done overnight, this has been years in the making, and I am not 100% anxiety free by any means. But this is progress… baby steps!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Hard Work Pays Off

Working hard pays off. We prove that to ourselves time and time again. So why is it that when things get tough we forget what we’re made of? Why do we forget who we are and what we have accomplished so far?

I get it when we’re in the time of actually hustling and bustling, we think to ourselves when will this end? Is all this work truly worth it? Why am I doing this in the first place? All reasonable and normal questions. The part of that thinking that causes problems is when we start thinking if whether or not we should give up.

Giving up seems tempting, it really does. Often the relief we know we will feel becomes very appealing. The only thing is, is that there will be this little voice in the back of your head saying “what if”? What if you had kept going or what if you had just gone one step further?

Whenever I think about giving up I take a step back from everything and examine if I really want to truly give up. Often times those haste decisions we make to give up on something is just that, a hasty decision. Its not a well-thought-out decision, nor does it reflect all the things, time and energy that you have put in, up to that point.

I understand that sometimes the hard work of the goal you are trying to reach becomes too much, but if it is something you truly want I do not think you should ever give up. Working hard does pay off, and sometimes we just need that small reminder to fuel the rest of our journey.

I hope you never give up on your dreams and keep pushing through.

Hard work pays off.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah