When its Time to Change the Way You Think

When an opportunity presents itself, do you just go for it? Are you the type of person who will jump on it the first chance they get? Or let it brew in your head for a bit? Or wait too long and the next thing you know the opportunity is gone?

I tend to be a mixture of these reactions, mostly because my mind decides that playing devils advocate with every situation is perfectly fine. So when I can be really excited about a new opportunity, my mind will still jump to the other side. What if I don’t get? What would all this work be for? Isn’t it pointless at the end of the day? Even though there is a part of my head saying, “TAKE IT”.

Every day we make decisions, and our brain goes through the same pros and cons motions. For a long time, I let the cons side win, and thought it was normal not to take opportunities that were literally being presented to me. Because my brain believed it was safe, it was familiar, and it meant that nothing would change. And obviously, that seemed like the better option. Rather than the pros side being seen as something positive, I saw it as negative. What I’ve been learning is that this type of thinking isn’t just for opportunities, its reflected in every tiny decision we make—subconsciously and consciously.

But when does it all get too much? You see my brain was in this permanent thought process of negativity and assuming that all things were going to fail. The only way I started getting out of this thought process was when I had just had enough. I had reached a point where I was at my limit, and my own negativity was starting to get to me.

I had to learn how to reverse this damaging thought process I had cemented in my brain and learn how to side more with an optimistic and positive view of my decisions. As I say all the time when I tell you guys how I am in the process of changing things in my life, this did not happen overnight. It is still a constant ongoing project that never stops.

Every time an important decision or an opportunity that can change everything comes my way, I have to constantly battle with myself. I need to choose been taking a risk and comfort. I am in no way a risk taker; I don’t live life off the edge.

But on those times when the universe presents you with something that fills you to the brim with passion, joy, and ambition, I hope you realize that you need to take that risk. And if it fails, then it fails! I know that’s rather simplistic thinking, but sometimes we can afford to think like that. If you fail, then you embrace your failure and learn from it. Then get right back up and see what other opportunities there for you are.

But having that mentality or getting to that mentality means you have to change the way you think. You have to consciously make an effort In every decision to make the pros voice in your head, louder and have a better reasoning. You are the only person who can do that. And I encourage you all to try it if you feel like you have reached a point where you have just had enough with yourself and the negative thought process you’ve relied on for far too long.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Family

If my family has taught me one thing, its unconditional love. The type of love that just pours out of your heart because you just love the person so much. I was watching Set It Up, the new rom-com on Netflix (definitely recommend) and at one point they say “I like because… I love despite”. This got me thinking, no matter how insane or crazy my family is, I love them. Despite the fact that they drive me absolutely insane, and sometimes make me want to move halfway across the world, I still love them to bits.

We are a dysfunctional mess who will use any excuse to get together and eat. We are loud, we yell, we eat too much, we cook enough food for an army, we dance and sing, we laugh and cry, we literally are our own community.

But when things get tough, I know they will still be there. Because being born into this family comes with this attachment, that no matter what you do we will always be there to love you, support you and feed you.

My family is divided into many generations, with mixed backgrounds, with so many different characters and personalities and yes that clashes a lot. But at the end of the day, we are family.

Need to hide a dead body? We got you. (I’m kidding!!)

Need to feed 40 people in three hours? We got you.

Need a random excuse to get out of the house? Well just stop on over because someone is bound to be home and will serve you coffee within 5 seconds of you being in the house.

My family is loud, crazy, energetic, dysfunctional, loving, supportive, compassionate and amazing. Its times like these I realize just how lucky and privileged I am to have people in my life that will always be there at the end of the day.

I understand that not everyone has this type of family, but sometimes the family that means the most to us can be friends, colleagues or distant relatives. Family is family.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

The Habit Tracker

As of today, I have been using a habit tracker for one month. Now I didn’t come up with this idea, and I am not entirely sure who the original person is but I did come across it on YouTube while watching Kalyn Nicholson’s video, and in her bullet journal she created a habit tracker. Now I’m not into the whole bullet journal, mostly because I need structure and having a blank canvas scares me, but my lack of artistic skills doesn’t help either.

A habit tracker is essentially a visual space where you can track your progress with certain habits that you wanted to work on. For example, I wanted to work on journaling more and writing down 3 things that I’m grateful for. At the end of the day or the next day, I would fill in the box if I completed the habit for that day.

It’s super easy to set up. All you need is some colorful pens, ruler, paper or notebook and a list of habits you want to start or old ones you want to keep track of!

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I find that this visual chart keeps me much more accountable than if I just wrote it down as a habit that I wanted to pick up.

As you can see, I don’t always achieve the habit that day. In the beginning, I used to see not filling in a habit as bad and bring myself down about the fact that I hadn’t done that habit. The thing you need to remember is that these are habits you want to pick up, but if you don’t do them that day, then that’s okay also.

The habit tracker is mainly a way to help you start new habits and keep yourself accountable, not chain you to them and make you feel bad if you don’t complete them. That being said, do try to achieve as many as you can.  At the end of the day, this habit tracker is to help you.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

Become The Fire

“Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it”– r.h. sin

When you think of it, fire doesn’t let anything stop it in its path (except for certain materials, buts lets avoid the technicalities and focus on the bigger picture). Fire will go where it wants to go, not asking for permission and technically not stopping until the oxygen is stopped being supplied to it. That’s how you should be. You should not let anything stop you, you should do what you want to do and never ask for permission and not stop until the end!

The fire shouldn’t be something we fear, yet here we are scared to ignite it. Why? Because for centuries women have been told to suppress the fiery burn within us, the spark just dying to be ignited. There was no place for a woman in the world other than in the house. But guess what? Times are a changing’ and things are not at all what they used to be.

You have the right and the duty to ignite that spark within you, whatever it may be. You have the privilege that many women before us did not have. You have the privilege to become the fire. Don’t fear the fire, never fear the thing that will make you the best version of yourself.

Fire is what led to our survival all those years ago. Even today, more metaphorically speaking, the fire inside of you is what will keep you afloat, happy, surviving, but also thriving.

Become the fire.

You are the fire.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah

 

5 Favourite Quotes

Lately, I have been feeling uninspired and unmotivated, which is the complete opposite of the high I was feeling just over 2 weeks ago. But that’s life, the wave just keeps going up and down. During those times of the low wave, I know how I get; I get anxious, I want to stay home all day and I feel blah. But one thing that always sheds even the tiniest bit of light through those times is quotes. Writing speaks to my soul, especially when the soul needs a boost or some healing, words tend to help.

So here are 5 of my favorite quotes:

  1. “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams” – Oprah Winfrey

  2. “Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve” – J.K. Rowling

  3. “We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action. Fear is natures way of warning us to get busy” – Dr. Henry Link

  4. “As long as you’ve got passion, faith and are willing to work hard, you can do anything you want in this life”– Anonymous

  5. “For what its worth: Its never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you are not, I hope you have the strength to start over” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

During those lower waves remember the high waves you had and that they will come back soon.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Sunday Nights

It is currently 8pm on a Sunday night, and I have not stopped this entire weekend between work, events, chores and just life in general. I got home from my shift at work and realized just how disastrous my brain felt and how all over the place I was. This is definitely not a good way to start off the week, so I’m going to run you over a few things I like to do to prepare for the week ahead.

  1. Pamper yourself

Whether that be with a facemask, bubble bath, personal hygiene or even having some ice cream, take some time out of your night to pamper yourself. Sometimes even just keep up with personal hygiene can be pampering ourselves because we don’t have enough time to do it during the week.

2. Plan your week out

Instead of heading into the week completely blind, take a look at whats coming up. You can also meal plan, organize your time, plan out workouts, weekly or daily budgets etc. Just take a few minutes to plan your week and trust me you will feel less overwhelmed and stressed.

3. Think of outfits to wear

We all have those times where our alarm goes off and we snooze it too many times so we end up running late in the mornings. But we can fix that! Other than training yourself not to snooze, you can preplan outfits. Just go through your closet, and really look at all your clothes and see what outfits you can have. I make sure to always have that one comfy outfit, a dressy one and an in-between always in the back of my head. It makes mornings during the week so much simpler.

4. Set your intentions

How do you want this week to do? What goals do you want to get done? Why do you want them to get done? How do you want to spend your time and energy this week? Think about what this week can hold and all the amazing things you can do.

Lastly, take a few moments to think about the endless possibilities that this week has, and the adventure and craziness it can bring.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful week!

Sarah

Why is This Happening to Me?

Sometimes we wonder “Why is this happening to me?” The usual answer that follows is something along the lines of “Life isn’t fair” or “You somehow, in some way deserved whatever is happening to you”. Although those might be true, people often forget that things happen to us because it’s those are the consequences of a series of actions. Our actions, other’s actions, rules that need to be followed, morals or principles that apply all determine the consequence or result of something. Things don’t just happen to you. Things happen to you because many decisions led to that thing happening to you.

At the end of the day, you can think of it in a negative way, or you can see it in a positive way. Recently at my part-time job, I am not getting a lot of hours. Which sucks because the goal of any student working in the summer is to save up as much money as possible. So, I could sit here and wonder, why me? Or I could look at it from a different perspective. I can see this as the universe giving me an opportunity to focus on my blog more, to spend more time with people I’ve been meaning to by haven’t been able to, or maybe to volunteer.

You always have the choice to look at the answer to the “Why is this happening to me?” question and decide how you will react to it. You can see it as a bad thing, and that the universe is trying to ruin your life, or you can see it as the universe forcing you to realize things in your life that need to be dealt with.

But do keep in mind, many things that happen in life, happen because its a way to test us, to make us stronger and to grow as a person. Not all bad things that happen to us are intrinsically bad.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

Sarah