The Silver Lining

As we all know, life is life. It can be brutal, messy and knock the wind out of you more times than you think it can. This recently happened to me and figuring out how to recover or move on from it has been one of the hardest challenges I have ever had to face.

Its been a week since the situation happened, and only now am I slowly starting to return to my normal self. Except things have changed, too many things really… My relationships with people have changed, the lens I view life through has become a shade darker, and I feel completely alone.

But out of every single bad situation, there is a tiny glimmer of a silver lining. This silver lining happened to teach me one of the most important life lessons I needed to know. It taught me that at the end of the day, I can only truly depend on myself. My relationship with myself, and the confidence that I have, and how I trust myself is the most important thing I will ever have. Because when you feel completely alone with no one to turn to, the only person left is you. Being able to depend on myself is what ultimately got me through, and still is getting me through, this situation.

Everything I will do in the future will be for me, and that I will work and earn everything I want, and no one else will be involved in this. Some of you might think wow she’s turning into a selfish person, and maybe I am. But depending on myself, and being able to trust my intuition and decisions, and love myself is never a bad thing. I simply want to work and focus more of my attention on building a relationship that is stable and will last, with myself.

Silver linings are often hard to swallow because they tend to come out of situations you did not want to happen. But they are in a way the universes way of teaching you an important life lesson.

When shit hits the fan, the only person left to pick up the pieces is you! You are your own best friend, and knowing that fact will bring you comfort, strength, and stability. Being there for yourself is one of the powerful things you can ever do, it takes a lot of strength and bravery.

Be there for yourself.
You need you.

Thanks for reading,
Sarah

You Are Interesting

I used to think something was wrong with me because I didn’t have any hobby’s. I mean sure as a kid I did swimming, dance, piano, soccer, but none of them ever stuck. I was very much the kid that did something for a year and got bored of it.

But there were a few things that stuck and are still around today, like reading and writing. Ever since I picked up a harry potter book I have become addicted to reading and absolutely love it. Getting lost in a world completely apart from my own and going on this journey with the characters makes my heart feel full and content. I love to create and fantasize scenarios in my head and the only logical way I could think to do that was through writing. These are things that I’ve been doing since I could remember. But still, when I say these are my hobbies I get a funny look.

This entire rant has stemmed from a conversation I was having with some people a while ago in which they were all discussing a sport they loved or a passion/hobby they still do today. I didn’t enter the conversation and instead just listened in. Was something wrong with me? If I didn’t have a hobby that defined some part of my life, then who was I? Was there anything interesting to me? This was obviously caused by overthinking, but the answer to my questions are rather simple. Nothing is wrong with me, a hobby doesn’t define you, and yes you still are interesting.

For a long time, I avoided becoming close to people because I thought if they find out how boring I am and that there isn’t anything to me then they won’t want to be my friend. I look at that logic now and I’m almost laughing at how childish it sounded, but at the same time is explained a lot about why I didn’t have many friends or become close to many of them.

The truth is, there is so much to me, and there is so much to you also. We think that because we don’t have a long list of hobby’s or passions then we can’t be interesting. We all have passions and interests and are so much deeper than anyone can imagine. It took me realizing that reading and writing, and this blog are part of who I am. The problem was, I was embarrassed by this because it wasn’t conventional. You should never be ashamed or embarrassed by what you love and what defines you. Don’t let other’s conventions dictate your worth, or what you think about yourself. You have so much awesomeness and are so much more than meets the eye. You are special, unique and interesting. If someone can’t see that in you then they are not worth your time.

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!

A Much Needed dose of motivation

Do you realize how lucky you are to wake up every morning? Do you understand that you are still here for a reason? Do you know that you only have one life to live and that’s it?

You might not be at a great point in your life, and I get it if there’s one thing that unites every person on this planet it’s that life slaps us all in the face. But what differentiates you from others is how you react to this slap in the face.

If your life sucks right now, then change it! You have the power in you to change your day, week, year and even life! If you want to start something or achieve a goal now is the time. Don’t just let it sit in the back of your mind, act on it now. Life doesn’t wait for anybody, but it will help you when you have a plan of action and follow it. As they say, action breathes motivation, and the universe rewards those who act.

There will be challenges, and obstacles and a lot of self-doubts, but just remember that you were put on this planet for some reason, and only you are the only person that can fulfill it.

Your life is waiting for it to be lived. It’s not when you get to a specific point of your life, or when you have something that you can start living. That’s not living, that’s chasing the idea of living your life. News flash, you will never get to live your life if you go down that path. You think you have so many years ahead of you, but no one knows that for sure. We use it as an excuse to not face our deepest fears and our insecurities, but there will be a point when you need to face those fears head-on. These fears are holding you down, but you are meant to do so many great things. One of my favorite quotes that I go back to whenever I notice that my fears are holding me back is “Give yourself permission to live a big life. Step into who you are meant to be. Stop playing small. You’re meant for greater things.”

All of you are meant for greater things. Do you want that? You do. I know you do. You have so much to accomplish, and so many lives to change including yours. You can do it. You have the power to do whatever the hell you want to do. I have faith in you, and so does the universe.

I hope this gives you a little bit of motivation, and I truly believe that we all have the power within us to change our lives for the better.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Journaling

If you have never tried journaling, then you are missing out. The reason as to why people start or even continue journaling differs from person to person. I used to journal a lot when I was a kid, but it was mainly summaries of what I had done that day, which has proven to be interesting and cute to look back on now. But when I really started to pick up journaling, it was a more dark and sad period of my life. It was a way to take all the jumbled mess and let it explode onto paper, it was therapeutic really.

I did stop for awhile after that as things started to shift but picked it up again. It then became more about thinking through decisions or trying to understand how I felt the way I was feeling about certain situations. I had progressed and grew up and my journal entries were reflecting that.

Journaling is what you want it to be. Some people write endless pages, others make lists of what they’re grateful for, some use it for manifestation. There are an endless amount of things that you could do with journaling.

That’s all nice an easy, but how do you make it a habit? How do you enjoy journaling? As for many things, this is when you need to establish your “Why”. Why are you journaling? It is because you need to take a load off your shoulders? Find some calm and peace? etc. The reason why I began journaling has changed, but now I find it a nice way to write out my ideas, or my thoughts on life. I’m also a person who loves working on bettering myself and seeing how much I have changed over time, so I use past entries to see just how far I’ve come. And to continue doing that in the future I need to write down what’s happening in my life now.

Grab yourself a new notebook, or one you already have and make it a point to just write one page (or more if you wish) and start with something easy. Write about how you are feeling right then and there, or something that happened today good or bad. Write something down, don’t think about it at all. Journaling comes from within, so just write from your heart and soul. Just write.

I hope you really do start getting into journaling, it has become something I look forward to doing every night before bed. Try it out!

Thanks for reading and have a wonderful day!