Take Care of Yourself

There will reach a point where everything will far apart.

You will probably be neglecting your family and friends, your mental and physical health, essentially your sanity. The universe has probably been warning you that you are headed down this path not-so-great, yet you have been dodging the signs left, right and center.

It’s only when we are physically not in shape, that we can see what is going wrong with our lives. As a student in university, this time of year is crunch time. So, when I became sick a few days ago, I wanted to cry, because I knew that I needed to be on top of my game, and give a 100% to everything, but I couldn’t anymore, physically or mentally.  My body was weak, my head kept pounding, and my nose was a water fountain, and to top it all off I lost my voice.

It was at this point that I realized just how stressed out I was and had been for the past few weeks. I noticed how I had not stopped, either between work, school, and homework, since the end of summer. There wasn’t a day without a long to-do list, or somewhere to be, or homework to do. For those few weeks, all I did was go through the motions and just kept pushing myself, which apparently took a toll.

So yesterday after much negotiation with myself, I did absolutely nothing. I sat in bed or on my couch all day and watched movies. I forgot how good it felt to do nothing, and just shut off my brain.

We are constantly on the go, and when we are not, we find ways to fill up our time. But that takes on you, mentally and physically. If I did not get sick this week, then I know that I would’ve gotten sicker later, and it would have been worse.

Getting sick even though it isn’t the greatest, was a wake-up call to how I’ve been taking care of myself. And how if I don’t slow down or stop every once in awhile, there won’t be much of me left.

So please, take a break. I know its hard to find the time, but eventually, your body will force you to. Don’t exhaust your body or your brain, take care of them. Take care of yourself.

Have a wonderful day!

Small gestures

Small meaningful gestures can make a person’s day…

Sometimes it can be a hug, or a smile, or even a little pep-talk. Sometimes buying them their favourite hand soap, fuzzy socks, or a book they’ve really wanted, can change turn around a bad and crappy day, into a not-so-crappy and bad day.

We don’t always have to do things in grand gestures and make it known to the entire world. Sometimes its more meaningful and special if that special gift or moment is kept quiet and between you and the other person.

Just something I think we should all think about once in awhile… and since the holiday season is approaching, it was just something we need to keep in mind. Not only in this time of year, but every day of the year.

Have a wonderful day!

Reality Check

Life will slap you in the face, and you will never see it coming.

I’ve had numerous slaps in the face (basically, reality checks), whether it be from school, family, friends, money or even work. I thought that these reality checks were finally done and that it happened once and that was it. Except, it had to continue because we take forever to realize what is right in front of us.

Its been years, and I didn’t realize that certain people were not good friends for me, and do not need to be in my life. Yet time and time again, I forgot that these people were not good for me. Reality did what it does best, and made sure that I remembered how these people were, or else I would’ve steered myself in a horrible direction.
Reality once again hit when it came to my family, and how I didn’t spend enough time with them. I was letting life go by, and not seeing my family, and when they expressed how upset they were, I didn’t understand why. It’s only when I was forced to look at the situation from their perspective that I realized that I needed my family because they are my support group and that they needed me since I am part of their support group. But I needed a slap in the face from life to remember that.

These are only a few examples, but if you pay attention life is constantly sending you these warning signs. It’s a blaring loud noise, yet we claim not to hear it because we never pay attention. These reality checks make us realize how inattentive we are to our surroundings, those around us and the world. These reality checks are meant to have us take a step back and realize that the rest of the world is moving and going on and that we need to be part of that.

If everything in your life has been going wrong or flying by too fast, or you believe everything is perfect, take a step back. You need to wake up and realize that there’s something wrong if everything is crumbling around you. Or if you don’t notice where the time is going, and that you think everything is perfect when really you fail to see the areas of your life that desperately needs improvement. Remember that this isn’t a bad thing, it’s a way to make your life truly better, and not just a cover up your life with the idea that everything is okay.

Life has been sending you all these warnings, and if you haven’t noticed them, then take this blog post as your need for a reality check.

I hope this helps one of you!

Have a wonderful day, and thanks for reading!

The Flip of a Switch

We all need those moments to escape from our lives, or even from ourselves… today I needed that badly. Over the last few weeks, I have been anything but myself. I have been lazy, unmotivated, and not bothering with anything. That’s not who I am, or who I want to become; I am usually motivated, driven, and want to do everything and anything. Maybe you are feeling this way also like you are just not yourself lately, it’s weird and different because on the outside you are the same as always. But on the inside, where only you know what’s going on, it seems like an upside mess.

That’s how I have been feeling lately, which is very unusual and probably unlike you too. We both have 2 options, or 2 paths to take let’s say. We can continue experiencing this horrible and weird feeling, or we can sit down and have a talk with ourselves. Many people don’t like being alone with their thoughts, and I understand because sometimes they don’t take the best shape or form, but when we’ve hit this point where our whole lives are being affected, we need too.

I need you to sit down and just be with yourself. Try to pinpoint what situations or events led you to this state of not being you. Recall how or who you were before this weird phase, and think if you want to go back to the person you were, or if you want to start fresh, both are an equally good option. These thoughts that come from sitting down with yourself don’t happen in one minute or even one day. Rather, it’s an accumulation of all the little moments of reflection you have had. Whether it’s that small journal entry where you noticed something was off about you. Or during that walk or metro ride home, where you were just by yourself and listening to music. Or those random moments during the day where you space out and think “What is going on with me?”

Those little moments over time, come together and will lead you to feel this shift. It’s not dramatic or filled with just the right background music and beautiful scenery like in a movie, but it’s like a flip of a switch. Its quiet, fast and you don’t even notice it. You go back to your old self without even really noticing it, and trust me you will be so happy and relieved.

Somehow over time that drive will return, you’ll want to do things, and go places, and get shit done. However, all of that takes time, and you absolutely need to work at it. Yes, it will be hard, uncomfortable, and weird, but when that flip of a switch happens you’ll be glad you went through all that.

Remember, this weird phase you are in is not who you are, its how you get out of it and return or create your true self, that makes you who you are.

Thanks for reading! Have a lovely day!

An Unexpected Result

At the beginning of October, I set myself the challenge of writing 31 blog posts in 31 days.

I did not reach 31 blog posts, and that did disappoint me, and I felt like I had failed myself and the blog. But then I looked at the number of blog posts I did post and including this post I wrote 16 posts.

Some of you might see this as a failure since I only accomplished half my goal. And though that is true, I see this as an accomplishment. I went into this venture, with the mentality that I’ll go through it for 3 days and then dump it just like every other project. Surprisingly, I proved myself wrong, I kept coming back and pushing on. Sometimes my doubt did get the best of me, but I didn’t let it put me down forever. These 16 blog posts are an accomplishment because it helped me learn new things, and see that this is something I want to keep around in my life.

October was also a time I wanted to designate for getting my life back on track, to find myself again, reignite my spark and drive! And that did not go according to plan, or in anyway that I wanted it to… but while everything else around me was crumbling, or floating away, this blog was here.

And I hope you realize that this blog and I will always be here, whether you need advice, comfort, an escape or a good laugh. Creating that sense of community, or creating something that will always be there was an accomplishment. And honestly one I did not expect to happen, but I am sure glad it did!

Just a heads up, from now on, I will be posting on Sundays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.

I can’t wait to see where this will lead me… and I hope you stick along for the turbulent ride ahead, it’s going to be a blast!

Have a wonderful day!