Welcome to the second chapter of the Spring Your Life series, where today we discuss priorities!
I will be the first person to admit that 90% of the time I have my priorities out of whack. Priorities are hard to prioritize, and they are constantly changing, even on a day to day basis. Some days you might prioritize your family over friends, or some chill time over homework. The downside to priorities is that we never know the consequences that follow, those decisions until it’s too late. But, once we understand and accept our priorities, then those consequences will be easier to manage and handle.
First things first, everyone is going to be at different times and stages of their lives, which means that everyone’s priorities are going to be different. Honestly, this is something that took me a long time to understand, and I know quite a few people who still do not understand this. Sometimes people are going through things in their life, or have things they find more important to do. It does not mean they do not care about you, or that they don’t want to do something, they just have a different agenda or priorities than you do. And unfortunately, you might lose people along your life because you seem to have your priorities out of order. Which is something that comes with being human, and trying to live your life, it’s not an amazing thing, but it is necessary.
But today, we’re going to focus on how to prioritize things and people in our life. If you want, the value exercise done in the Values blog post in the Spring Your Life series can help you make a list of your prioritize. Let’s start with some basics, I will always prioritize my family first, regardless of anything. Now remember this is not the case for everyone, and respecting that aspect about someone in any kind of relationship is key to making it work. Then you can have friends; which some people also subdivide into most to least importance. Now you might think that is kind of mean, but actually, it’s healthier for you, and you are putting energy into those who you care about the most, and who care about you. There are 3 people in my life that I will prioritize (in terms of friends) above a lot of other people. Some may say that’s rude and mean, but think of it to the idea that people can only count their friends on one hand. There will always be other friends, and not having them at the top of your priority list will not make you a bad person, but they just are not as essential to your life as others.
Another thing that we often need to prioritize comes out more in the academic, or career aspects of our lives. When we make lists (I’m a to-do list addict), we tend to just pile on things, no matter how important of insignificant the task is. Therefore, making our to-do list seem longer, and we never get to the end of it, or feel accomplished at the end of the day because we never did the important things. What you need to do, as well as your to-do list, is create a priority list. Example, you have a huge paper due in a few days, then that should go on your priority list; if you need to wash some towels, maybe put that on your to-do list, since it’s not an emergency to get done. Priority lists are meant to narrow out all the little things that you would do anyone, and make you pay attention to the things you absolutely need to do.
I hope you guys are starting to get interested in the Spring Your Life series, stay tuned for the next post which will be on Goals and all about goal setting!!
Leave a comment down below if you are an avid to-do list maker, or if you have any tips for prioritizing people in your life!
Have a wonderful day!